Chronically late??

Aside from how fucking rude it is to disrespect another person's time by being chronically late, they are adults. You should tell them "ceremony starts promptly at 5:30" and be done with it.

Don't change the time. Don't start late. Don't tell them it starts earlier than it does.

If they miss it, it will suck for everyone involved, but you shouldn't have to go out of your way to change anything to coddle them.

I would only do the party bus thing if you are including it for the benefit of your other guests, too.

If it's important to them, they'll be there. Does your fiance have this chronic late gene? If not, I'd have him talk to his family to express how important it is for him (and you) that his family be there on time.

My son was best man in a wedding and the groom's family (well his mom) was always hours late to everything. It was out of state for everyone so my son rented a car and made sure to drive the groom (his mom figured they would pick him up because "they can't start without us.")

Needless to say the bride was over the moon.

And the parents came straggling in just as the ceremony was about to begin.

Don't change the time. If you do, you are enabling the behavior.

Don't change the time.

My sister is like this. My mom tells her to arrive up to 2 HOURS BEFORE for anything because she is always late. I refuse to treat her any differently. If she misses everything, that is her fault.

I feel your pain! I hired a bus partly because parking was very sparse near my ceremony site, but also for the same reason as you. They were still a little late, but at least everyone got there at the same time

Stop rewarding bad behavior. Starting your events on time will teach them that you are not going to wait for them to arrive. You have time between now and the wedding to start a new tradition.

H aunt is ALWAYS LATE. She arrived to her nieces wedding at like 630 (beach ceremony at like 430) she arrived after dinner was served. H actually ate her food too to teach her a lesson. So she didn't have dinner except for the roll he saved her. Everyone was pissed.

We told her if she isn't at our wedding when ceremony starts, she will no be allowed it. It's extremely rude to show up THAT late. She made it on time. And we told her the actual start time.

ETA: everyone was pissed at the aunt, not H for eating her food. They encouraged him when he brought up the idea.

Personally if they are late and can't make it to their sons wedding on time then that's on them and that's something they will have to live with, like everyone else said I would tell them the wedding is at 5:30 sharp and leave it at that. Don't stress yourself over someone who can't be on time to important things like this.

I would say to practice your wedding processional without them and make sure the BP is aware, you better be walking down the isle by 5:35, whether his parents are there or not. I have an aunt like this and we have learned to just start without her after about 30 minutes of waiting for normal events, for weddings you're being rude to everyone else if you say 5:30 and don't start until 6. They should understand that weddings always start on time, it's like going to a play and expecting them to let you in in the middle of a scene haha. You could also tell his parents that all family members need to be at the venue by X time to help set up and take pictures, but that would mean someone would need to be there if they did show up on time lol!

They need to understand that they can't be late for a wedding, especially their son's, because it WILL start without them promptly at 5:30 pm. Once you tell them that, let it go. If they're late, they miss out. Sad, but welcome to reality. Such a shame that they are this way.

Girl. FH has family and I have some near and dear friends who are always late. And I mean LATE. I now move on without whoever the hell isn't there with no fucks given. Lol and I will be doing the same on my wedding day.

Please don't change your time, invites and skip the party bus because that shit is ridiculous. You should not have to provide transport for them just to ensure promptness. I would have your FH maybe talk to them to nail it in, but either way this isn't your battle. They know it's a wedding and it's important to be on time.

Stop waiting for then when you make plans. If you have dinner plans, eat when you planned to eat and if they arrive later, they can eat when they get there and if you finish and leave, then they can finish eating on their own. People are chronically late because they can be. There is no negative disincentive. In fact, there is a positive incentive because they never have to wait.

I'm assuming they aren't cognitively impaired and just rude. I absolutely would start on time! About the only thing I would be willing to do would be to send a text msg to FOG /MOG how excited I was to be marrying their son in 90 min. And the only reason I would send that would be so I could tell my FH I had sent a text earlier and that we need to start on time.

H's parents are chronically late too. Definitely don't enable it. If they're late it's their own fault and it reflects poorly on them in the end. I didn't even pay attention to what H's family was doing on our wedding day, but I know they walked into the church before I did so they must have figured their shit out.

I am had the same issue bridal shower wad hosted from noon until 4. His family didn't show up until 3pm and left my house at 9 Pm. Very rude. Honestly I put the time the ceremony will be taking place and if they are late that is on them.

My dad's side of the family is late to pretty much everything, doesn't matter if dinner is at my grandma's or at a restaurant, or anything else we do as an extended family. My dad was even late to my parents' wedding, although that wasn't his fault entirely. I was worried my family would be late to everything, surprisingly they were actually early for the ceremony which was about an hour drive for them. You never know, they might surprise you.

Thanks guys! Everything youre saying is all things ive basically already said outloud to my fiance, and he just says "its in the Dominican culture, i cant fix it". But hes never late...so. We shall see. Trust, im not going to change the time, and screw the bus. Theyll either be there, or miss it. Sad to say, but it is what it is. Just nice to know im not going crazy and you all feel the same as me lol

I agree with not enabling it. My godmother chose to take a vacation the wedding of my wedding with her return cross country flight getting in four hours before the ceremony. The airport is two hours from her home. The wedding venue is an hour from her home.

Needless to say my godmother didn't even bother showing up. I won't forgive her for it.

Don't reward this by starting when they arrive start on time and just be sure to support your FS if they feel hurt.

He's right: you can't control their behavior. But you can keep them from holding your plans hostage by their behavior.

I hate when people blame it on their culture or background or whatever. "Oh we are Hispanic and we are late to everything" (I am Spanish and yes I can be late to certain things) but come on! It is a wedding and that is for sure one of those things you do not show up late to. No excuses. If his family can not make it to their own son's wedding it is totally on them. Don't change the time.