Christian Wedding Question

I went to a wedding last May where they did the washing of feet ceremony. It went pretty smooth and they had someone reading a few versus with soft music playing in the back. I thought it was very beutiful. BUT if you already feel uncomfortable with the idea then I would just skip it and do something else.

Do it for engagement photos maybe? No one wants to watch that during a ceremony.

I have never heard of that at weddings but do what you and your spouse to be happy. It's your wedding, do it how you want.

Yeah I would pass considering it doesn't seem overly important to you either.

Foot washing ceremonies are pretty common. If you want to do one, do it. The only horror story I've heard was a wedding that was outside in late November, it was 40 degrees and the foot washing ceremony took forever.

UO! I didn't read he comments but FH and I are both Christians as well. I would have no problem seeing this at someone's wedding. I actually would find it beautiful and intimate, but that's just my opinion.

I need more ideas on games for a inside reception.

I have only seen it at one wedding, and I "think" we sang a hymn during it. In all honesty it was a bit awkward, but I am also a grown woman and can handle something a big awkward if it is truly meaningful to the couple.

They were both comfortable with the idea. You are not. If you aren't, just talk to him about it and ask that he drop the idea.

I will admit i've never seen this before (except close to Easter at Catholic mass and that involves a Priest doing the washing). I was curious so I found a video online of a bride and groom that did this and I thought it was just beautiful. Their pastor introduced it/explained the symbolism and they had 2 singers sing an appropriate song while it happened. I was very touched, in fact a little emotional. They did it just before being pronounced man & wife - as their first action after their vows was to serve each other. I think if it is something you both want to incorporate into your wedding you shouldn't hesitate to do so.

Hi! I didn't read through all the messages- however, I been to MANY weddings that have this (thanks to being a Christian and going to a Christian College). My only complaint about doing it is for how long. I was a bridesmaid to someone that it took 30 minutes for her to "wash" her husband feet. She was ocd and felt she had to touch every single part.

The other part to it is knowing your audience- I went to one where you could literally hear people surprised *gasp* when they realized what was going on. Or they all have a look of disgust on their faces.

I also saw one where the bride ripped her dress going down (it got caught somewhere) and another that got soapy water on her... they weren't happy brides after that.

All in all- It makes for pretty pictures. But it has to be done right in order for it to work. If you do go this route- practice it, time it, and make it intimate- but mindful. My FH and I have opted out of this- as we have many secular family members/ friends and are doing the unity knot (so much more personable) and we are going to take communion and pray together while my brother sings "Great are you Lord" All Sons and Daughters. (I also HATE feet and refuse to let anyone touch my feet or anyone's else haha!)

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your advice! I originally posted this back in August of 2017 and since then FH and I do not plan on doing the feet washing because I am not comfortable with it and I don’t think my dress will let me bend down in that way (mermaid-ish style dress). I love everyone that is coming to the wedding, however I think that this act would be best in private between the two of us. That way we can share our emotions in the moment. We don’t know what we’re doing thought for the ceremony as unity symbol still. FH wants to be different and not do the braiding or candle but we’re still at a loss.

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Wow! I normally look back to see what the date was- sorry about that! I see now someone randomly commented on it that jumped the board back up! I understand with trying to be different- it seems like there's really nothing that can be "creative" when it comes to this part. No one we know have done Unity Knot- so FH was on board with it. But good luck! I hope you can find something soon! Praying that it all goes smoothly and you guys find something soon!

Also, we are date twins!

View Quoted Comment Thank you, thank you! Yay for date twins!!