Christian Wedding Question

Never been to a wedding where this was done. I would probably be uncomfortable with it. I think it's fine to do in private if it's meaningful to you, but not during the ceremony.

Watching a foot washing ceremony would be really awkward for me as a guest. It just feels very intimate.

I was at a wedding that was very religious- they did a unity knot (I think that's what it was) on a cross. It wasn't awkward and it didn't take too long.

I agree with PP that it would be really uncomfortable. Maybe do that later

I've seen the braided rope done. I've never seen a foot washing ceremony in a wedding but I've heard about it being done. If most of your guests are Christians like you then it probably wouldn't be weird for them. I personally wouldn't think it was weird but I also have seen them done in church (just not at a wedding).

Awkward AF.

The foot washing would make me very uncomfortable.

FH's cousin did a foot washing at his wedding and from what I've heard people loved it (but I don't really know, we didn't go to wedding). Personally, I would be incredibly uncomfortable. I think it's best done in private if you really want to do it.

I have heard of it.. But I think it would be awkward to watch. Maybe this be something you do in private.

You could do the 3 cords or what is popular now is the unity cross - FH liked that one a lot

I've never seen it done at a wedding, but plenty of times at church during Holy Week (I'm catholic). I think it's a beautiful, humbling, and moving testament to your marriage.

ETA: you could do a hand washing instead if that's more comfortable for you

I've seen it twice and at the one I remember, it was messy and people were kinda laughing because water was getting everywhere and the bride thought it was really cold. It can be a nice sentiment though.

One of my couples had planned to do it, but the morning of the wedding the bride discovered she could not sit in her gown. So, they scratched that idea.

Two of my couples have done the unity cross.

I don't even care for it on Holy Thursday.

" I think it would be awkward for everyone else when we do this...". Well, that's you answer, OP. If there is an element in your wedding that evokes in you a visceral reaction that's evenly slightly negative, then skip it. I'm sure your FH will understand the irony in going forward with the reenactment of a ritual that speaks to service and humility if you're uncomfortable with it. Do it in private (that's really where I think this ritual belongs, not at a wedding ceremony, but that's my opinion as a potential guest, not a theologian).

The braiding is fine. The foot washing is awkward as anything. Even when it was done on Maunday Thursday at my seminary, the audience thought it was uncomfortable.

I think you might want to consider why you want to do that, and if you still feel it's important to you, do it privately.

One time when I was in like 2nd grade, my best friend's family got picked to be the family that had their feet washed on holy thursday, and we're sitting there in the children's choir and all of a sudden her face turns white and she turns to me and says "i'm wearing tights!" the priest had to wash her feet through her tights and i was hysterical laughing the whole time. i still don't let her live that down, 20ish years later. not related, but i love this story

PWG LOVE that story! Will have to tell J, we met in fourth grade in Catholic school (mass every morning)!

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I would be super weirded out by this.

Nonna, my best friend and I met in Catholic school! Went together from k-8th grade and grew up singing together at the family mass every sunday! this weekend, I'm heading to the joint bachelorette weekend she planned for me and my lady fiancee. We've travelled quite a bit from Catholic school...

I think it is beautiful, but something that should be done privately.