Christian Wedding Question

Enjoy every minute PWG, and yes, we all have (but I still flinch when I see a ruler).

I think you should wear tights and tell her to wash your foots

My best friend did both and it was incredibly awkward. Make that a private moment between the two of you.

And the rope thing takes longer than you think. Just more time for guests sit awkwardly and watch.

I've had a feet washing ceremony at my church when I became a Stephen Minister. We prayed over each other as we did it. So beautiful. Also at our wedding next month FH and I will be doing a Unity Braid, not the best pic but we can't wait. We got it from Etsy (Unity Wedding Braid). Our faith is how we met in Christ is such a strong component in our lives. Since we are not having a ceremony at our church we wanted to do everything we could to incorporate Christ. So instead of having table numbers we're going to do scripture titles (i.e. 1 Corinthians 13:4 etc)

Personally, I think that got washing should be fine in private. It's a very intimate moment. Share that together your wedding night.

OP, I think @Sara suggested a great idea. It would be a beautiful sentiment to do during your first look. That is private time with just the two of you. No awkwardness between the two of you that way.

I'd never known this to be a thing, but a local photographer that I follow shared her personal wedding day from last month, and she had a foot-washing ceremony. I thought it was very sweet, important to her, and must've been a beautiful moment for the bride and groom. Here is the link to her blog post showing her foot-washing ceremony! http://stephaniebrann.com/2017/personal/our-wedding-at-oak-grove-by-karime-photography/ I'm willing to bet she would be delighted to talk to you about it if you reached out to her. She seems very personable.

My siblings all did this at their weddings, so I've seen 3 different footwashing ceremonies at weddings. IMO, the least awkward one was my eldest sister's, because she had the congregation sing a hymn while they did it. So there was a bit of distraction from the "icky feet" bit.

I would do the foot washing privately after . Maybe before you consummate your marriage? You want everybody comfortable during the actual ceremony.

My FH and I are considering this... I actually asked this question awhile back. Here is the post:

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/foot-washing-ceremony/30c1229a7083ccf1.html

I think what @RachelD said is perfect though- if it makes you uncomfortable at all, don't do it, or do it privately between the two of you. I would only consider it if you both have strong positive reactions to it, otherwise your discomfort will be obvious to the guests.

With that being said, I've seen some beautiful foot washings, and you can youtube wedding videos and see them.

My cousin and his wife got married this summer and did the rope braiding, it was really beautiful. He washed her feet when they got engaged, but I'm really glad they kept that to a private moment.

I'm doing the unity braid. Three strands for me, my fh, and God. It's a permanent reminder after your wedding day. Foot washing won't have a physical reminder and it's kind of awkward for guests.

Coming from a Catholic family/upbringing/education, this wouldn't make me uncomfortable seeing it. More importantly if both your families and friends are aware that your religion is the foundation of your relationship as well, this shouldn't be an issue in the slightest. Viewing it may very well not be for everyone, you know this too, but it ultimately comes down to what you want, what you feel is right and best for you and your future spouse. If this is part of your beliefs, do it, don't question it. That is something my grandmother told me long ago, and I stick by that! Best of luck..

I been to one with the feet washing. It was not awkward at all.

@Nancy, you got an interesting concept of foreplay

I went to a wedding with it, and due to the doctrine of the church, brethren, it was a part of trifold communion. The trifold communion includes the bread and cup, feet washing, and community meal.

I went to a wedding with it, and due to the doctrine of the church, brethren, it was a part of trifold communion. The trifold communion includes the bread and cup, feet washing, and community meal.

@PWG I'm crying laughing! I had that thought too... how strange!

I attended a wedding also very religious and I liked the idea. No one was uncomfortable because MAJORITY of the crowd were Christian. Even the few who wasn't religious, asked after the ceremony. Guests kindly explained the meaning. I say if that's what you want GO AHEAD- especially if majority are religious etc.

I've only seen a foot washing on Maundy (Holy) Thursday at my church. It was fine for that service (the priests and vestry washed the feet of the congregation) - it was very powerful for that service (for me).

IMHO, I wouldn't care for it at a wedding ceremony. Perhaps with a First Look, or other private time, yes, but not during the public ceremony.

@PWG I literally spit my coffee all over my lap. Best comment on this thread!