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Changing your last name? Why/why not?

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Suzie, on October 7, 2019 at 8:37 PM

Hey everyone. I am on the fence about whether or not to change my name. FH is not pushing it at all, and in fact is encouraging me not to. His last name is long and complicated, no one pronounces it correctly, and he always has to spell it. Mine is very simple. I don’t have a good relationship with my dad, so I have no real attachment to it, other than it has always been my name, and my sister and I share it. My son has his father’s last name (not FH), and FH and I do not plan on having our own children. I know it prob sounds silly to not want to change it bc mine is “easier,” but it seems like a lot of work and hassle to go through for something so complicated. Are you changing your last name? Why did you choose your choice? Thanks in advance!

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Suzie · on December 29, 2019 at 9:51 AM
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I’d rather take his name only than to hyphenate as well. It would be such a long name for me!
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Kelly · on December 29, 2019 at 2:56 PM
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Thank you! My fiance says he got teased a lot in school. Kids are mean!
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Michelle · on January 22, 2020 at 3:43 AM
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I never liked my last name and have always been open to changing it if I was with someone whose name I liked better. I don't even think I'm that fussy because out of my 40+ coworkers and then all of my closest friends, there are only about 6 people with last names I wouldn't want.

FH has one of those names. No one can spell it or pronounce it. I don't like the sound of it even when it is correct. So, I'm not changing my name.
Maybe that's petty or dumb, but I feel like its my name, and I get to choose. In this case, I don't want to.
I've had the full spectrum of responses: horror at the unconventiality of it, righteous anger that I would even consider it to begin with, but mostly a general consensus that his name isnt great.
Do what makes you feel happy. If you change your name, people will call you it. If that concept or the new name doesn't make you happy, don't change it. Changing your name has nothing to do with your feelings for your FH or your commitment.
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Suzie · on January 22, 2020 at 7:46 PM
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That’s a good point, me not changing does not diminish what we have. How unfortunate you don’t have a good opportunity to change yours, but I don’t blame you! I’m still deciding, but I’ll figure it out eventually lol.
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