Changing Wedding Date?!? RANT*

You'll never be able to accommodate everyone. I would say "Wow I'm sorry to hear that, but we will celebrate with you another time."

Im sorry...I read your bridesmaids post. I know this all is not fun Honestly think and talk to your FH if you guys want to work around everyones schedule to change and have everyone be there. But I can predict after you change someone will back out, bc ultimately you cant change to make everyone happy. Do what is best for yall!

Nope. I would not change it. Especially considering it has been set for 2 years.

If you change it again there's no guarantee they'll be able to make that one either, maybe Bobbi Sue from Nantucket is hosting a shindig that day that is apparently more important.

Don't play the sad card, play the "wow your graduation event is more important than your granddaughters wedding, hope it's worth it" card. I'd be livid. You changed it for everyone to attend, if they aren't attending it's on them, and your mother can say what she likes but she can't guarantee that everyone would make a new date. It's YOUR day. You deserve to have it and not perpetually postpone it.

DO NOT CHANGE!!! Even if you do, someone else will have something else to do and 20 years from now you will still just be engaged.

Don't change it. You'll just end up with someone else unhappy because they have something else to do that weekend. Honestly I'd be pissed too. You've changed it once and now just echo what Janeen said. You'll never be able to have everyone and your grandparents need to prioritize. If they chose the other thing then that is their loss.

Man I dunno about charging guests $50 a person. That seems pretty crazy.

Honestly, IMO, you already pushed the wedding out which gave EVERYONE time to know about it and chose to keep their schedule clear or not. Not everyone will be able to come, but it is sucky that your grandparents would chose not to come. I wouldn't change it, especially if you have sent out anything or let people know. It starts to get confusing. I would just talk to them about it. Let them know you can't change it (if you already have your venue you could stretch things and tell them it's not easy with the venue). Maybe if you express how much you want them there they may be able to figure something out?

You cannot charge your guests to attend your wedding, whether or not you change the date.

Do you have your venue booked? If so, I'd say the date is set in stone. If not, then you don't have a date officially yet. I still wouldn't want to change but you may need to be flexible on the actual date if the venue you want is already booked.

Sorry you have to deal with this. I would tell the family "Regrettably, we are unable to change the date. We will celebrate with you at a later date."

Why would you charge guests to come to your wedding? They would just pay for their own hotel. You don't need to pay for it and have them pay you back as an "entrance fee" for your wedding. Sorry, but that doesn't make sense to me to charge a guest.

I wouldn't change your date again. Your family has to realize that your date has been set for a long time and if they really want to be there then they have to work around that. You gave them plenty of notice.

Also- PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do not charge your guests $50-60 to attend your wedding. I can't tell you enough how rude that is.

I wouldn't change a thing. Just planning a wedding is stressful but a DW take the stress to another level. I don't like going to weddings that charge the guests for anything. My brother had a DW and he didn't receive gifts. Most guests felt that just their attendance was the gift. DW can be costly for guests, especially if they had to pay for babysitters. How much will it cost to postpone or change the date (again)? Ask your mother is she will to foot the expense?

Nope, I wouldn't change it. There's always going to be someone that can't make it on whatever date you choose. I would tell them sorry they cant make it and you hope you can celebrate with them another time. And honestly if I were you (this is just me) I would tell my mom that you can't believe a reunion he shouldn't even be a part of is more important than his granddaughter's wedding.

You are charging a cover charge for your wedding? That is very odd! With a DW you always run a risk of people not wanting to spend the money, use vacation time, just don't like the place you are having it, cant afford to go, etc, that is why we switched our wedding to have it at home.

@O&S- she would be charging her guests: "We have been thinking about charging guests 50-60$ a head to get onto the ferry to come to our DW wedding. But that 50 or 60$ will give you all trasportation, all food, all drinks, and all accommodation."

Read your other post and I am so sorry you are going through all of this! I wouldn't change the date for that reason. That's not good enough for me....My grandmother mentioned not coming to my wedding because she was already traveling to the states (she lives in Puerto Rico) and didn't want to travel twice in one year....my response when my mom told be (shrugged my shoulders)

Please don't charge your guests to come to your wedding. Please don't even consider it.

I say don't change the date, but don't charge people to go to your wedding. Its not a party or club to get into, its your wedding

I normally 100% agree with everyone else saying don't change your date. BUT maybe this, with your other post about your BM who is pregnant, means you should at least consider it. It all depends on who your VIP's are. If you can't see yourself getting married without your grandparents and FH's brother, then consider moving the date. If them not being there is a bummer, but not a big problem to you, then absolutely keep your date. And your mom needs to back off--you had your date before your grandparents decided to travel.

Also, who is paying for the wedding? If your mom and FH's parents aren't, then stop discussing wedding plans with them. Seriously. Wedding planning is stressful enough without having a million different people jam their opinions down your throat.