CHANGING MY WEDDING DATE- HELP!!!

A friend of mine is getting married in Tahoe this year, and she went to http://beautifultahoeweddings.com/ then click on "Packages and Locations" and look to see if there's anything that you like! She's paying for the wedding herself, and her and her FH are 20-21 so they don't have much. I think she said her entire wedding, including her dress and everything is under 2k!

Hopefully that site helps!

While some people completely poo-poo this idea, its becoming more common to become legally married privately at the courthouse and have a bigger "show" wedding later. The ceremony would not be a legal ceremony and just so you know, some religious persons will not do it, but if you wanted a family member or a nondenominational person to officiate, it wouldn't be an issue.

If you are super worried about changing things and expense, it might be worth keeping your plans as they are, but legally marrying when you need to.

I was planning on doing this, although we ended up being able to wait a little longer to get married. When asked though, I just explained to people that we had legal reasons we needed to be married but we are doing the second ceremony as a way to share our vows with our family. Also, it gave us a change to have a formal time to make personal promises to each other that we couldn't at the courthouse.

Either way, good luck to you both!

Thank you both!

I looked through the wedsite FMW provided and I think there could be a possible place there I'll just have to get some more info from them

Kimmi- Thanks for the suggestion. We've been thinking about doing that, but FH is not very keen on the idea. He says the second ceremony would feel "fake" to him.

We'll see tho... you gotta do, what you gotta do.

I agree with Kimmi Fh is immigrating here from the UK and the three month rule, immigration fees, and the expense of both moving to another country and maintaining an international relationship totally made us decide to do a small intimate ceremony here in the US first. Personally I did not want to get married in the courthouse so we are getting married in a garden with just our moms and then having our dream wedding a year later in the DR. We too were worried about the "real" wedding feeling fake. So, weve decided not to wear our wedding bands till then. (May be odd to some ppl but it works for us. We wanted to save something for the day!). All of our friends and family know that we will be married due to immigration issues b4 our big day but they re all excited and looking forward to us exchanging our vows! Good luck

Hey DCT! Thanks for the pointers

UPDATE:

So I talked to my mom about this. I have been looking for Tahoe venues all day. I found a restaurant that we could afford, and a yatch service where we could have the ceremony. I call my mom, who's on vacation, and tell her about the possible date change and what I've found so far. She basically tells me that "it sounds like you'll be getting married at a bus stop to me". EXCUSE ME!? I just got soooo mad! I was in tears for quite a while. She also asked why is it not going to be as nice as I had described in the past, and that what I have found "just sounds tacky and no one will want to travel to see that."

My mom's such a bizzazz!!! She is not paying for anything other than for my dress (no veil/undergarments/pettycoat/jewelry/nothing) and she's demanding a nicer wedding. She tells me I should have the wedding in Texas because we can find better stuff here. Well, my FH's dad had to take a 20K paycut to keep his job.

(CONT"D)

It's him supporting a family of 8, yet they still offered to help us in any way they could. My mom? It's her and my sister, and has not mentioned anything about helping us out. Mom says it's "unfair" to have the wedding in California.

I don't want to make FH's family feel like they have to choose who to bring or who stays for the wedding. PLane tickets and lodging, renting a car... that's too much for them. Mom can afford it. She doesn't have a mortgage, car payments... she's just crazy LOL.

Sorry, I had to vent. She just made me sooooooo mad.

Thanks for reading