Changed my mind on a wedding party…

If you remove all of them and explain that you changed your vision I think you’ll be ok. Whereas if you were to remove just 1, there might be hurt feeling

I also think it’s okay if you remove all and explain you’ve decided to simplify things but I’d also have a talk with your fiancé about making flippant decisions that affect other people. Yes it’s his wedding and he should be happy, but it’s not necessarily kind to your nearest and dearest to flip-flop so much.

There are many posts on the forum asking how to politely ask someone to step down for any reason. Long story short, you cannot do that without ending the friendship permanently so be aware of that. Sides don’t have to be even but most states require legal witnesses which the bridesmaids and groomsmen act as, even if only 1 or 2 sign legal paperwork. You need to sit down with fiancé and compromise before making a decision you regret later.


Looking at your date of August 2022, they should not be asked this early anyway. There is nothing they need to do before 6 months before the wedding and waiting to ask prevents situations such as this.
Best of luck

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I second this!

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This is accurate. "Un-asking" people is hard to do without affecting your relationships with these people, who are supposed to be your closest people.

Honestly I wouldn't try and do this. They could still get dressed but not stand in the ceremony, maybe a seat at the front?

This is why we say wait until six months before the wedding to ask.

I have actually been in this position (on the receiving end)! I was to be the co-MOH at one of my best friend’s wedding. Planning was super stressful for her, and midway through they decided to really simplify things; which included not having a wedding party. All of us understood and there were no hard feelings at all! It was just as special (and tbh, more enjoyable) witnessing her wedding in a comfortable seat as a guest. I think this would be problematic if you were singling out and eliminating one person from the wedding party; but since you are eliminating the entire wedding party altogether, your closest friends should certainly understand and support your decision, since it obviously does not reflect on them or your relationship with them. That being said, if any wedding party members have purchased their attire for the wedding, you should reimburse them for those costs.