Catholic Wedding Without a Mass?

I haven't been to one but that's what I'm having. The admin lady at our church said we should go without a mass if there will be many non Catholics or non practicing Catholics.

Yes, all of the catholic weddings ive been too with the exception of one was just a cermeony and thats what we are doing as well, lasts about 20 min

I've been to full masses, and only rite of marriage. Here is the thing...for the full mass you are getting the communion part which as you know being catholic doing a full mass doesnt count as mass anyway for weddings because of the time of day; you still have to go to mass on Sunday. We are doing the rite of marriage and no communuion because since it doesnt count as mass there really is no point in having communion.

I disagree that there's "no point to having communion". There is always a point to communion, but I don't think it's a big deal to just have the officiant perform the right of marriage.

I misworded that, I mean for me at least having a communion on the wedding day doesnt make sense because I will be getting it at mass the next day anyway. Plus, taking guest into consideration not everyone is catholic, I just don't see the point. FH and myself will be at mass Sunday...fun lol!

:-)

I may beg for a free pass LOL - riiiiiiiiight

If you're both Catholic, I think that the ceremony is much more meaningful WITH the mass. We're not having one because my FH isn't Catholic; if he was, we would have the mass despite most of the guests not being Catholic. I'm still kind of sad that we're not having the mass, but oh well.

Anyway, it's definitely possible to just have the Rite of Marriage.

Hahah I know your priest and he will make sure you are there Sunday no matter what! hahahaha

Maybe I can bribe him with another treat from the cupcakery.

@Karen I guess I don't see it as more or less meaniful, we are doing everything else just no communion.

@Paris that would work for me! I had the salted carmel and it was delish as usual! I thought about you because someone was in there having their cupcake tasting

Awesome.

now that we've completely hijacked this thread. . .sorry Kelly!!

Thanks for your replies!! Haha and no worries, you did not hijack the thread. I appreciate the responses.

Without mass is called a Nuptial Celebration. I have a program from our Deacon if you want to see it. Also the reading stuff.

Yes and it was great! Still had enough religion in it without the whole communion part of it.

Lasted 30 mins

Ours will only be the ceremony portion as well and I'm very happy about it. FH isn't Catholic and I didn't want to drag out standing at the alter (I'm very anxious about being in front of everyone that long).

I've been to two weddings where they only did the ceremony portion and not the mass. This was due to one of the spouses not being Catholic. For one wedding I was very glad as it was a very warm day and could not have survived in the church if they had done the full mass.

It's a very nice ceremony and yes, lasts around 30 minutes.

I am not Catholic, but my FH and his family are, so we are doing the ceremony portion only with no Communion since my entire family is not Catholic. The Priest told us it would still be about an hour long, and I just dont understand what will take that long! Seems like everyone posting on this thread is staing 20-30 minutes! I guess I will find out at the Rehearsal!

We were told 45 min to 60 min but normally closer to 45 for the nuptial celebration not a mass.

@Melissa, an hour! What are they planning on doing? You should be able to cut that down to about a half hour tops unless they are doing a lot of singing and extra things.