Cash/honeymoon fund on Registry? Yay or nay?

Go with your gut. They are extremely tacky and desperate. Pay for your own honeymoon.

I'm going to let you know you should have lurked and searched. Asking for money/honey funds are seriously frowned upon on WW.

I personally think they are incredibly tacky, but some people swear by them.

@krclark7....whoa!! thanks for the head up! my question is...if WW frowns upon it, why is there a "fund" link under the registry tab?

Get ready for the backlash..the community does not support them, WW website does. It's rude to ask people for money for anything. Make a small registry and your guests will get the hint.

@FutureMrsD - I hear ya! Thank you!

Just because a lot of people seem to be doing it, doesn't mean you should be doing it.

They create the expectation of cash gifts, which is rude af.

Your instinct is right on this one, glad to see there are still people around who can see something inherently wrong with this!

Rude! Don't do what you cannot afford.

Everyone will tell you it's tacky here. I'm adding a cash option to my zola for those who don't want to give a gift, but I'd much rather just take cash. Zola takes a percentage out of the donation, so kind of a lose lose.

OP,

You're intuition was leading you in the right direction: honeyfunds and cash registries are tacky and considered déclassé. It's rude to directly ask people for money for your wedding.

The standard wedding/ bridal registry has been the accepted method for decades, people will expect you to have one. Typically you'll get the majority of the gifts at your bridal shower where the bride is 'showered with gifts'. For weddings, most guests prefer to not have to lug a gift box to the wedding & reception so guests will bring congratulatory cards with checks or cash tucked inside. (Don't forget to get a card box for your reception, that's what this is for).

Having a smaller registry (10-12) items usually lets people know in some odd unspoken way you would prefer cash and cash is what you'll most likely receive. Magic!

OP check out the new user sticky at the top of the forum. There is a section that lists the ww hot topics.

Meghan, you know that people frequently give checks or cash for gifts, right? Why pay a fee for no reason AND look absolutely rude and classless to your guests when it's completely uneccessary? I'm sure you and FH are not rude and classless, so why give that impression to your guests?

As an FYI, when I see a cash request in any form, I do not give my usual $200-300 cash present. Those couples get a Cheap bottle of wine.

Ugh @Megan

No!!!

Don't listen to Megan! That's tacky!

If people want to give cash they will give cash. They don't need a website to inform them that it is an option.

I say forgo cash registry .. people always end up giving cash anyway- that were either too late to your registry and didn't want to purchase a big ticket item that was leftover or just wanted the simplicity of writing that check. My brother and his wife got every single item on their registry AND $8,000 cash ! GRANTED they were very lucky and had a large wedding but still.. people will always give cash

Honeyfunds or asking for cash in any form is rude, no matter how people want to spin it. Your gut is leading you in the right direction. If you would prefer to receive cash. make a small registry and most people will likely write you a check anyway.

It's essentially a GoFundMe except they disguise it in the form of "excursions" and pretty pictures. You're not getting a voucher for those things and even if you were, it's still straight out asking for cash.

Would you walk up to your loved one and say, "can you give me $150 so I can put it towards a plane ticket to Hawaii for my honeymoon?" If you have class, the answer would be no.

So that's what a honeyfund or a Zola registry is. It's panhandling.

If you feel like something is tacky then it's probably tacky.

That being said... honeyfunds and cash funds are the tackiest of tacky