Cash bar?

Oh boy

Tacky.

Yes

Totally tacky.

I am having open bar only for my cocktail hour atleast it's something

"At least it's something"??

Great way to think about your guests.

I guess im tacky because im doing a cash bar. 1) i am not going to be responsible for those who can't limit their drinking and have to drive an hour home. 2) if they want to drink then they can drink on their own dime. And 3) anybody i know that has a party does byob which is pretty much the same thing. So if my guests have a problem with it and don't come because it is stated on the invitation then they shouldn't have been invited anyways. All the NON alcoholic drinks im paying for and are unlimited so its not like they are going thirsty.

Wow you're paying for the non alcoholic drinks? Woohoo, par-tayyyyyy!!!!

I'm amazed at how many people seem to think adults are completely incapable of NOT getting hammered at a wedding.

Most, If they're going to drink, will have one or two, hours before even leaving. Or they could be a complete adult and get a hotel room for the night.

Until I joined WW, I had considered doing a cash bar. FH is a 9.5 year recovering alcoholic and even he was like eh, it's in bad taste to do so. Once I really read the responses (I asked the same question) I realized how shitty it was to have one. It has nothing to do with anyone's personal preference and everything to do with properly hosting your guests. Even if you do just beer and wine, like us, having free alcohol is just the right thing to do.

I personally think cash bar can be rude, I understand you don't want to pay $5,000+ just on alcohol but they are coming to celebrate with you. My fiance wanted a cash bar, I didn't, so we chose on a happy medium, a limited bar. We are serving 2 different beers, a wine, and a signature cocktail, the rest is cash bar

I always love the "things may get out of hand." Like people can't regulate themselves especially with the help of a bartender. If you want things to get out of hand, wait til people start using flasks and going out to their cars.

Or they leave early.

No cash bar. Guests do not pay for anything. Please host properly. Having beer & wine in place of an open bar is fine. If your budget allows, add a signature drink.

You must supply alcohol. It doesn't matter if the both of you, aunt, uncle, grandpa or anyone else, doesn't drink. Supplying alcohol (at no charge) to the guest is a must.

I would not have a cash bar.

I laugh at people who use the excuse that having a cash bar will keep people from getting drunk! Uh, you have been to a bar on a weekend right? Lots of drunk people around! And guess what, they paid for that alcohol!

OP- proper hosting is offering an open bar of at least beer and wine. Anything you can do beyond that is that much better!

If you are concerned about the money possibly do an open bar until a certain time them the guest will have to pay. Or give each person an X amount of ticket for drinks.

Me personally i hate going to wedding where i have to buy my own drinks. I already paid for my attire and hotel room and travel expenses drinks at the wedding ous the last thing u want to be spending money on

How is it rude comments towards my guests?!? Because i am not going to be responsible for someone drinking to much and driving an HOUR to get home. Sorry not being responsible for someone being injured or hurt on their trip because they were leaving MY EVENT. And your guests shouldn't be there for the FREE booze they should be their to celebrate and witness your big day. If people think its in bad taste thats their business. Opinions are like A**holes everyone has one and well im sure you all can figure out the rest lol

Ain't nobody excited about the unlimited soda's you're offering that actually came included in the price of your venue anyway.

That $5 Starbucks card would be from me if I have to buy my own alcohol.

Provide beer and wine at least my dear!!

"It's not like they are going thirsty" - wow, that is so incredibly generous of you Canter. You aren't dehydrating your guests. Sounds like it will be an amazing party.

" if they want to drink then they can drink on their own dime". After spending hundreds of dollars to get to your wedding, buy clothing, hire baby/dog sitters and give you a gift.

"anybody i know that has a party does byob which is pretty much the same thing" This is not a house party, it's your wedding. See above.

"So if my guests have a problem with it and don't come because it is stated on the invitation" This is actually good because they have a window into just how poorly they'll be treated.

" All the NON alcoholic drinks im paying for and are unlimited so its not like they are going thirsty."

You're a saint. At least they won't pass out from dehydration while they experience the celebration of YOUR big day.

Because it won't be theirs.