Cash bar or dry wedding?

Cash bars for sure, as PP stated there are a time in a place when a dry wedding is acceptable, and the ones I have been to were early in the day so it wasn't really missed.

Also Honeyfunds because asking your guests to pay for your honeymoon, house down payment, wedding is just rude and tacky. Money dances are sometime apart of a culture so I can understand those. I just choose to not partake in them.

My general rule of thumb is I only ever bring enough cash to maybe tip the bartender, but not for a money dance or enough to buy more than one drink. So why would I expect that my guests would.

Cash bar is worse. a dry wedding can have better reasons for it. whether it be religious or personal.

honey fund is asking for way more money than a dollar dance so its for sure worse. but if i saw them asking for it at a wedding it wouldn't bother me too much. i don't usually bring a bunch of cash to a wedding. it's mostly to just tip the bartender.

I have been to 3 dry weddings(I'm in Alabama), 1 one was an Indian wedding and I actually enjoyed it but the other 2? We left after dinner.

I have never been to a cash bar wedding but I've also never been to an open bar top shelf wedding either. Everyone here does beer and wine. Affordable and you can still provide alcohol to your guests. Why people do cash bars when they have that option is beyond me.

I think cash bars are absolutely ridiculous. I've yet to hear one decent reason for having a cash bar.

I prefer to by my own drink than there to be none!!

Dry wedding because you didn't leave me any choices. At a cash bar I have options. Not giving me any choices and deciding for me is worse. IMO

I've been to plenty of partial cash bars (hosted cocktail and champagne toast and cash the rest of the time, e.g.) and honestly I've rarely paid for a drink because the 3 I get for free is enough, and so they have all run together in my head with the open bars and I couldn't tell you who was which.

The dry weddings on the other hand stick out like a sore thumb in my memory because they were BORING. In both cases the parents of one of the couple was religious, but the couple and all their friends drink on a regular basis, so it felt hypocritical and cheap.

I prefer a cash bar over a dry wedding. At least it gives your guests the option to drink

Cash bar for sure. It's rude and tacky to make your guests have to pay to celebrate your wedding with you. I've been to several dry weddings by super conservative couples and found it was OK (although pretty boring) because at least everyone else is sober too. The only cash bar wedding I attended was believe it or not a DW when I was a broke college student, and after shelling out money to travel and stay there, there was no room in my budget for drinks. It sucked watching some people drink while I wasn't. Also, a lot of people wound up leaving the reception early - if I have to buy my own drinks anyway, I'm going to go somewhere that's cheaper and actually has what I want.

Also honeyfunds vs dollar dances. Honeyfunds are way ruder. If you can't afford it, don't go, honeymoons aren't required and I don't feel the need to pay for your vacation. Almost every wedding I've been to has had a dollar dance, and although it's not my taste (and I will NOT be having one!) it's acceptable in my region.

I'm just going to flag you right now. You can't name call.

Can i just decline both? im not taking off a busy saturday in the salon for either of those shitshows.

I'd prefer the option to buy a drink than to not get to drink at all. Either way, I feel like the guests should come aware of the situation to avoid nasty surprises.

Kiana, you cant be that rude and call people bitches or any other derogatory name. You can say you disagree, you can say your opposing opinion but you cant name call... No body here is name calling you or anyone else (though I'm thinking of quite a few)

Dry weddings are so much worse. At least give people the option to drink. I have always brought money with me to weddings because before seeing the strong opinions on here, I assumed cash bars were the norm.

So yeah, a dry wedding is no Bueno and I would leave in a hurry. I don't dance sober

I definitely prefer a cash bar over a dry wedding. I'd prefer to not have to pay for my alcohol at all, but I'd at least like to have the option to have some even if I have to pay for it rather than having nothing.

Dry weddings are the worst! I would at least like the option to buy a drink if the couple is not providing an open bar.

OMG, I almost got out my pitchfork...

Dry weddings are worse, IMHO. At least with a cash bar and proper notification, I can get drunk and pretend that I'm somewhere else where the booze is free.

Also, dollar dances make me cringe (sorry to those who have it in their culture). Honey funds...I'm probably one of the few on WW that doesn't hate them. I'm indifferent, and feel the motto of The Spice Girls applies to honey funds: just tell me what you want, what you really really want. You don't want a toaster? Fine. No toaster for you. Just don't Go Fund Me it.

At least with a dry wedding you aren't asking your guests to pay for anything.

Honeyfund - it's not really ever okay to ask for gifts. I guess some could argue money dance is a tradition in some cultures?? I had actually never heard of it. When I told a couple of my guests why we aren't registered, a couple asked why we didn't do a honeyfund.