Cash bar or dry wedding?

Cash Bar. There are some situations where a dry wedding is acceptable (example: like religious reasons). Personally, I just think having guests pay for anything at a wedding is tacky.

Honeyfund. Same reason really. Asking your guests for cash is just rude. EYA: Money Dances are only acceptable if it is in fact a cultural thing.

Dry wedding would be the worst for me. Cash bars suck but at least I can drink at those weddings.

I would say cash bar, because no matter what, you should not ever pay for anything else than bridal/wedding gifts. And no matter what, it's very bad etiquette. At least with a dry wedding, you're still not making your guest pull out their wallets.

I think that dry weddings should be hosted on Sunday afternoons, though, where people don't expect as much.

ETA: I didn't know anything about a money dance until just now as I just looked it up, but that just sounds downright stupid. I would say that is worse than that, because how would you know what that money is going to be used for? At least with a honey fund, you know what they're using it for. Both are awful, though, lol.

Cash bar.

I can't choose between honeyfund or money dance. They're both 100% horrible.

I'd say cash bar is worst because I assume if it's a dry wedding there is a REALLY good reason for it so I'd accept that.

Money Dance is worse than Honeyfund as Honeyfund is basically asking for cash.

Dry weddings are worse than cash bars for sure. People don't need alcohol for fun, but it helps people get comfortable, dance and talk to new people.

Dry cause i cannot have alcohol at all. Both suck though!

I think a Dry wedding is worse than a cash bar. And honeyfund is worse than dollar dance

I honestly can't decide. They're both bad for a variety of reasons. At least with a dry wedding, there can be religious reasons. There's never a good reason for a cash bar, but removing the religious aspect, they both look pretty cheap...

Cash is ruder than dry IMO - I don't want to have to pay for something at a wedding and if I do, it's coming out of the card I'm giving.

But like PP said I would prefer a cash bar over no bar. And don't try to give me any fancy sodas in the place of my wine.

RE: honeyfund vs. dollar dance...eh...If I saw a dollar dance live in the wild I don't know what I'd do - probably pass out from embarrassment for the bride. At least I don't have to watch a honeyfund. But I would give a personalized, nonrefundable boxed gift.

Cash bar. Don't force your guests to spend more money on your event, and part of adulthood is being able to imbibe if you so choose. Part of adulthood etiquette is to provide such when you are hosting. At least with a dry bar, you can explain the venue doesn't allow it or the overall attitude of the guests is pretty conservative and would not appreciate alcohol being present.

ETA money dance is worse. At least a honeyfund can be ignored. A money dance is there and then, in your face basically. And not every one carries cash so some people may feel guilty for not participating. Don't give your guests a reason to feel bad.

I think a cash bar is the worst. You are supposed to host the guests at a reception. Making guests pay for alcohol/drinks is not hosting your guests properly whatsoever. That's rude. At least with a dry wedding, you're not charging your guests for anything so your wedding will most likely just suck without alcohol (in most cases). It's a tough call though. I think they both are very frowned upon. Even though I think cash bars are the worst, I would still rather have one of those over a dry wedding so I can at least buy myself a drink.

I actually think the money dance is worse than a honey fund. They're both horrible but at least with a honey fund, people can choose to gift you with money for your honeymoon instead of bringing a gift. With a money dance, people already have brought gifts and then you want them to pay money to dance with you?! What?!?! Tacky AF.

Cash bars. I feel like if it's a dry wedding, I just accept that there won't be alcohol, move on, and make the most of it. If there's a cash bar, I feel like the promise of alcohol is dangled right in front of my face, but then it taunts me if I don't have cash, etc.

ETA: Money dance is worse! Honeyfund you can just choose not to give to... the Money Dance means everyone has to get off the dance floor for at least a song or two which kills the momentum, and then everyone has to watch the awkwardness! If it's cultural, everyone expects it, so it's less awkward and less interruptive.

I've never been to a dry wedding, but I think cash bars are worse. ESPECIALLY if I can tell the hosts spent money elsewhere that is totally unnecessary. I was at one once in this luxurious ballroom, the whole nine yards, and it was a cash bar.

My cousin just had a cash bar over the weekend and I'm torn; on one hand, I was happy to be able to purchase alcohol, but I had to purchase my own alcohol as a wedding guest.

Dollar dances are worse than Honeyfunds IMO. While you can choose not to participate in either, at least the Honeyfund doesn't take place in a big, terribly awkward spectacle in the middle of the reception.

Dry wedding, I'd rather be able to pay for a drink. Honeyfund.

Dry wedding, I've been to cash bar weddings and haven't cared about paying either way. We will be doing beer and wine open bar. Unless the bride and groom are in recovery, then I can understand but people like to have a few drinks at weddings and it makes for more dancing I think honey fund is the worst and so tacky. The money dance is sometimes cultural.

Cash bar is ruder in my opinion, but I'd rather attend one than a dry wedding. Because I have more fun with booze, sorry not sorry.

Honeyfund is worse because you're asking for way, way more $$ than a dollar dance.

Cash bar. Some people have legitimate reasons they don't drink and don't want to be put in the position of paying for people to drink when it's in direct conflict with their values/religious beliefs.

Dry Wedding 100%. I like my wine, ok? I like to at least have the option.