My friend and I have both had to postpone our weddings by a year, due to covid restrictions. I also have tickets to Glastonbury festival, which are really hard to get hold of! The festival has been postponed twice, and my fiancé and I are supposed to go in a group.
Last year, her wedding was scheduled to clash with Glastonbury festival, but I told her I would still attend (we had planned to drive up for the day, which is a six hour round trip). This year, she’s rescheduled for the same date (even though she knew the same clash would be an issue for me), and so I have RSVPd no. I just can’t face the drive - I think I’d end up feeling half in and half out of both events. She’s also starting at 10.30am, so this year we’d have to miss two nights instead of one.
She’s a close friend, and I’m really sad not to be there, but I can’t be in two places at once. I’m not a bridesmaid, and I feel it’s reasonable to give her a years notice that I can’t attend. However, she’s hurt and disappointed and sees it as a sign I’m not committed to the friendship. How can I manage this (and my own guilt at missing it)?