Super September 2019

Can't Focus on Planning

Denise, on August 14, 2019 at 4:46 PM Posted in Planning 0 8
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So my plate's full. I need a little help or some tips. I'm 29 days out and freaking out! I know I have a few DIY projects to wrap up but I honestly have no clue what I'm doing! On top of the fact that I'm so nervous I feel like I'm going to barf and having my thoughts so jumbled, we also lost my Uncle Ed last night. Too much going on!


  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
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    It sounds like you need some help. Reach out to family and friends to get some help. And try to get some rest.
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  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
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    Ah condolences to you, first off. Don't be afraid to ask people for help and also take a break too - don't forget about your own sanity, it's perfectly fine to take some time off to compose yourself.
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  • Ceelie
    Expert August 2019
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    I'm sorry for your loss Smiley sad I totally understand the "feeling like I have to barf" part haha. Last night I couldn't fall asleep very well. I'm about two weeks out and I'm praying that I'm not forgetting anything! But it'll all work out, don't be afraid to ask your family members and friends for help. That took a lot of weight off of my shoulders. Best of luck!

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  • Sinéad
    WeddingWire Administrator January 2025
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    Hey Denise! I’m so sorry to hear about your uncle. I think what is most important right now to spend some time with your family and have a day or two off from wedding planning.

    If you are feeling like everything you need to do is a bit up in the air, what I find helps is to write a list of everything that needs to be done. Not only will it help to keep your thoughts in order, but there is something intensely satisfying about checking a task off that you have completed!

    Do you have any friends or family members that you would be able to ask to help you with your DIY projects? Many hands make light work!

    The last thing I want to advise you to do is breath! Everything will get done in time for your wedding so try not to get so overwhelmed that you don’t know where to start. Just take it one task at a time.

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  • Arielle
    Expert May 2020
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    My condolences to you and your family.

    Maybe with help for your remaining DIY you can reach out to your bridal party and get some help. I'd also try to find even an hour to decompress. You got this!

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  • Sarah
    Devoted October 2020
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    That sounds really stressful. I'm so sorry to hear about your Uncle.
    First, make a list of everything you need to do. Then organize items into most time-intensive. Be realistic with your time and energy, and recruit your bridesmaids and family to help you.
    You'll get through this, I promise!
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  • Leslie
    Devoted August 2019
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    Taking some time off was the most productive part of my wedding planning process. Especially with getting so close to your date, and with going through a loss, just take some time to relax and be with family/friends if you can.

    We still have a few DIY projects to finish too, so I sat down and made a list of everything we’ve made, what’s done and what’s not done yet. As things are finished, we’re packing them into labeled boxes (what’s inside and exactly where it will go at the wedding) and set aside.

    Prioritizing my list is helping too, and I’ve come to accept that whatever doesn’t get done just won’t get done and it’s not a big deal. Even just accepting that helps take some of the stress away and actually gets me to be more productive because I’m not dealing with as much stress and anxiety.
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  • Ivy ORP
    VIP October 2019
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    My condolences for your loss. Maybe you just need a couple of days with family and skip on some of the wedding planning. When you have given yourself some time, ask a few family members to come help with those DIY projects. It might help them to have a distraction as well. Stress is very common when wedding planning but we still need to take time for us. Do you like to work-out, maybe you could go get a massage. Call a friend over and enjoy a glass of wine and some cheesy movie. Ask for help when you need it and remember that you are stressing because people are coming to share your joy, which means they want you to be happy, not stressed. In other words, you have a support system. Good luck.

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