Can't afford a wedding dress?

Maybe you should talk to FH about postponing the wedding until you have more money.

I would explain the bad luck thing and see if he would be willing. Do you think it is bad luck? Do you want him to buy it? Do you think he can afford it? I would talk to him about it.

If you end up buying it, there are a lot of options. In my area, there is a breast cancer group that has a $100 sale. There is www.preownedweddingdresses.com. Even Davids Bridal has dresses in the $100 range. You can also look for a prom dress, destination wedding dress, or bridesmaid dress in white, which is much cheaper than a bridal gown.

Hope that helps!

I think you should mention it to your FH. He should understand and hopefully help out. I don't see any other way of going about this. Where I come from, the FG buys the dress also and he completely understands. Good luck.

We have some amazing consignment shops here, just for brides. And what Beth said is so right on; I've had a number of brides in white/ivory bridesmaid dresses, simple prom dresses and gowns from H and M and J.Crew.

I had a bride buy her 2d dress (the first one was stolen) at Bridalgarden.com too. Don't despair! There is a way!

Just ask him. You are going to be marrying the guy, so you need to learn how to communicate with each other. You love each other, and I bet he will understand. If he doesn't, like mentioned above, there are alternatives out there for buying a less expensive dress! Good luck!

Yeah guess i will try to ask him first or we'll just postpone our wedding. I will try to save some money till next year. Thanks everyone!

Don't fel bad about asking your FH he is supposed to be the one person in the world you can share everything with and not worry about being juged. I'm sure he wants you super happy and I bet his mother would love to accompany you and yours to the bridal salon. It could turn out to be a good thing.

Denise, what size are you? I have found some awesome really inexpensive dresses online and can send you links!

Sorry, I sent that comment way too many times.

What I don't understand is why he wouldn't he buy the dress for you, if your parents bought his suit? And why are you afraid to talk to him about it? He's going to be your husband, you guys should be able to talk about everything.

+1 Dominika!! <3 She's right!

Thanks, i am a size 4!

We talk about everything, but i just feel bad asking him to pay for my dress because i already had to ask him other things. Like I told him the groom pays for the entire wedding where I come from and he was like 'wow really.' So he is already helping with the wedding cost and normally he wouldn't have to if he married a girl from his culture. At least that's what i have been told by other people. But i'm from a different country, marrying an American. I just thought he would feel weird paying for my dress.

When I told him my parents would buy his suit, he didn't say anything. He didn't even get the idea and I didn't want to force him. I am going to try to talk to him at some point.

Are you wanting to have a traditional "American" wedding dress? Or did you have a wedding dress in mind that represents weddings in your culture? Making it might be an option.

Have you and FH discussed your cultural differences? Once each of you puts your individual expectations out there you can figure out where to go.

You're engaged, you should be able to take all of your stress and anxiety to FH and the two of you work through it together. And vice versa.

I got a brand new wedding dress for 100 dollars off of ebay that might help ( just make sure the person is in the usa

Yeah it will be a traditional American wedding with our families and friends. i will be wearing a white wedding dress. just like any other. i will definitely search online!

I bought a beautiful ivory gown from Davids Bridal, real eligant and decided I was going to wear it, still in the bag. If your interested its a size 6, but can be altered, if you like I can sell it to you for the same price I pay $100.00 which is well worth it. I ended up deciding on a fuller dress. There is nothing wrong with it

If your interested you can email me : **********@*****.*** i can send you pictures of the dress. Brand new and very inexpensive

Dee

Where are you from originally sweetie. I'm from a different country too, and I am having a traditional gown from my country I have my auntie made for me which is way cheaper, is that something you would want to consider?

Denise, I think you should definitely talk to FH about it, and although it is "tradition" in the US for the bride's parents to pay for the wedding, most of the couples that I know paid for their own wedding and/or each set of parents contributed what they could. It isn't really set in stone.