Cancelled Wedding sadness

Best of luck to you and your husband to be!

I'm sorry but I don't understand how this years election impacted your wedding to the point where you decided to elope.. Am I missing something?

Based on your picture you're obviously not gay... so... why can't you have your wedding??

Not making assumptions about OP or partner, but trans rights are also a great risk. So there could be an array of reasons their wedding plans were impacted by the election.

Thanks for being rude. LOL no we are not here illegally, although, I am a permanent resident from Ireland and have been for 20 years. My fiancé and I both work in industries that may be affected with the administration change ( I work in immigration and he used to work for planned parenthood) we feel like this is not the time to spend 25k on one day. Honestly -- the whole thing just put everything into perspective. We would rather donate to organizations, and travel. I hope you all have wonderful lives that are less cynical of others.

Best of luck to you!

Honey, you got way too offended way too fast. No one was being judgmental or cynical. I HAVE however seen a LOT of people super over reacting to the administration change. Your reasoning as far as not spending the money makes sense, but immigration is only going to grow your job, and if he only used to work for planned parenthood then I don't see the problem?

We just don't want you to throw away your dream wedding and possibly regret it later. We ask questions out of concern, not criticism.

I don't think anyone was being rude... you were vague with your post.

I didn't originally comment because I wasn't sure why the election would render your wedding plans (unless you fell into one of the categories mentioned), but now that you explained, I understand.

I hope both of your jobs aren't affected, and I wish both of you the best! Colorado is beautiful and congrats!

All the best to you! I'm a little envious, I'm planning the big party when I'd like a small elopement.

Not trying to make this post more political, but I actually haven't seen anyone "super" over react to the upcoming administration changes. Most of the reactions I have seen have been quite appropriate....

Sorry if I felt defensive of my response, someone assuming that we must be illegal as the only possible reason is a bit rude in my mind. Its been an emotional 2 weeks going back and forth with this, and I am sad I won't have the wedding everyone else is planning. It does suck. BUT emotions aside, it feels like the right thing to do for both of us, and I am excited to have more financial flexibility to contribute in other ways. I still plan to have a beautiful day, and hope you all do, too!

Katie B to S, to clarify, I work with international students who come here to get their degree. If they choose not to come to the US out of safety concerns, my job is at risk. And we still support PP even though he doesn't work for the organization now. We're hoping to donate what would have been our wedding budget to clinics and organizations instead

Best wishes! I totally understand how you feel this way.

No need to apologize, Rebecca. I flagged his comment for being so goddamn offensive.

All these people on here that advocate for or defend people that want cash bars, honeyfunds, dry weddings, or other tacky things and some of you jump on her for being fiscally responsible in an uncertain climate now??? Election aside, she and her FS are making a decision that won't leave their bank account crippled if something devastating happens. Shitty of you for assuming she's here illegally or that her reasoning isn't valid.

WWMP makes a point of being incredibly offensive to a lot of people on this board. I also flagged the comment.

I don't think it matters what OPs reasons are, she made a choice that serves her best but I do understand the sadness too, all couples who elope go through the same thing and usually end up loving their day!!

@rebecca that makes sense. I wish you the best of luck. I really didn't mean to offend, i just wanted to make sure you weren't making a rash decision.

@beachdreams... idk about you, but I live in a college town and I've seen a lot of crying because people didn't get their way.... not because they don't agree with trump, but legitimately just because they didn't win. I don't like trump any more than anyone else, but your "I voted" sticker was your participation trophy, sitting in a room with 20 other millennial to have a sobfest isn't going to change anything. I also saw someone on here consider changing her wedding date simply because the inauguration is the day before. Which, to me, seems a little ridiculous.

Rebecca, have you seen a change? I'm just curious because I can only imagine the concern from international students with everything going on. A friend of mine still works for PP, and she's scared shitless.

I usually don't get why people want to change their wedding plans due to the election (when they are indifferent) but I can understand if it's your job you are worried about. I wouldn't want to be spending that much, either if I knew my job was on shaky grounds. Things are so uncertain right now.

It's a shame that that carrot top has to ruin it for you:-/ Good luck with your elopement and I hope it's beautiful, and you all have fun!

I'm so sorry for WWMP's shitty comment; I can only guess what it was, but I'm glad it's gone.

I wish you a wonderful, intimate, joyful day!

Katie BS, what to one person is completely ridiculous is totally sane to someone else. Please stop being so insensitive.