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Sarah
Just Said Yes April 2022

Canceling our wedding to elope

Sarah, on January 8, 2022 at 9:41 AM Posted in Community Conversations 1 8
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Hi everyone!


My Fiancé and I are getting married on April 23, 2022. It’s only 105 days away so we pretty much have all the planning done. The only thing left is finalizing the small details.
I have been having a lot of stress and anxiety over the planning process and the wedding day itself. I’m not a person who likes the attention to be all on me. We also were doing this big wedding to please our families. Now with COVID on the rise, our families brought up the idea of canceling our wedding and eloping on a beach in Florida surrounded by close family. I personally love the idea but I’m having a hard time making a decision. Everything for our original wedding is pretty much finalized. People are planning on coming and they always tell me they are looking forward to it. I feel bad having to basically uninvite people.
Has anyone had/planning to have a small ceremony with only close family? What did you like/dislike about it? Do you have any regrets?
I have to make a decision ASAP and I can’t figure out what to do. Thanks for the help!

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Latest activity by Laura, on February 14, 2022 at 12:27 PM
  • KYLIE
    Super May 2019
    KYLIE ·
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    You’re giving your families too much away. First they pressured you into a big wedding and now they are telling you to elope? You and your fiancé need to have a private discussion to decide what you both actually want.
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  • B
    VIP July 2017
    Becky ·
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    I agree with Kylie - you and your FS need to talk about what *you* want.

    Additionally, how much money would you lose if you changed your plans at this moment - are you prepared to lose that money? (I don't need an answer to that question - but you do.)

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  • L
    Super August 2023
    Lunajay ·
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    I also think you're letting your family pull you back and forth. However, the decision it up to you and FS. Since you don't like attention (like me) why are you doing the big wedding? You need to stop and think about that first and I'm sure your decision will be easier to make. Second how much money would you lose out on if you did make the change to a smaller wedding?

    FH and I wanted to big wedding but due to COVID, Family issues, cost, and other things we feel it's best for us to do an elopement and maybe bring a few friends and family along. Beside you don't need all your family to say I do.

    Hope this helps and good luck.

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  • Shannon
    Super July 2022
    Shannon ·
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    I would go forward with the plans that you’ve made and devoted much time, effort and $$ to. Otherwise, you will lose all of that and have to start from square one. It seems like you’re letting your families dictate what you are doing.
    Give them less details so they have less opinions.
    It’s your life, not theirs.

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  • Cece
    Master October 2023
    Cece ·
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    I agree with the previous ladies, I would sit down with your fiancé and decide what the two of you want for your wedding. There is no right or wrong answer, as long as it is what YOU want. I will say, we were in the same situation. We had planned for a big wedding with all our family and friends, but as the pandemic has continued to ruin plans and prove unpredictable, we have decided to scale way back and I have a small destination wedding with only parents, siblings, and closest friends. Although we would have loved to share our day with everybody, we think this is definitely the best decision with the current circumstances (and bonus, we are going to save a ton of money and be able to have more upgraded options and offer a better experience for our guests!)
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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    In addition to what everyone else is saying, please look over all your contracts. If we cancelled within a certain number of days of our event, we owed a lot of final balances to our vendors even if we weren’t going to use them.
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  • L
    Dedicated June 2023
    Linda ·
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    You need to proceed with that wedding at this point. You are going to throw alot of money down the drain. You can ask your close friends to help or hire a DOC

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  • L
    Beginner July 2022
    Laura ·
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    Hi! I'm wondering what the final decision was on this! I'm having the same dilemma, although not due to familial pressure

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