Can I request my guests do not wear black?

Last time I checked, it was YOUR wedding. Do what you want!

I'm wearing a red dress. My fiancé is wearing a black tux. My fiances daughter is also wearing red AND is walking me down the aisle. Everyone else, including bridal party have been "asked" to wear grey. We are getting married on Hilton Head Isle this summer on the beach. I don't care that my dress is extremely formal for a beach wedding. I don't care that I asked everyone to wear grey. I don't care that they requested to wear other colors. What they don't know.... They are all technically our bridal party. They are all there to support us and stand with us as we exchange our vows of promise and love. As we become a family, it isn't just two people, or three people when we include his daughter. It is all of us becoming a family. Don't moms tell their kids what to wear for pictures?

So yes, you can request that they don't wear black, but maybe verbally explain why at events such as your bridal shower and family events before.

Even if she explained why she didn't want black, if it's semi-formal to formal wedding, chances are that I have a black dress appropriate for the wedding that I'd like to wear. Unless you're buying me a new dress, I don't want to be told what COLOR to wear. I will always avoid white, or if I know, I can attempt to avoid the bridal party colors, though I won't always succeed depending on your colors and what I already have in my closet.

Honestly, being that you have over a year, you'd be better off having your bridal party in a color other than black that trying to get all your guests NOT to wear black. Especially the guys -- at least around here, most of the guys wear black pants or suits to weddings.

Since your wedding is in the summer, you will probably have more people in colours then in black. But that being said, black is a standard colour for dresses at weddings. Some people might also take a clue from your wedding invites. If you use a lot of black and another colour, people will probably assume that those colours will be used in the wedding and might avoid them.

I agree with Reenski probably best to pick another color or deal with the fact everyone will be in black. I don't think it's a big deal though if that happens. I put in my wedding website what my colors were and only because I do always ask what the wedding colors are and try to avoid wearing that color. I figured maybe someone else is like me lol, probably not though Either way I don't care.

I personally, think all these people are NO FUN! Seeing a specific dress code or request of attire (like not wearing black, for example) on an invitation would make me think "wow! This person knows exactly what vision they have for their day!!!" I would NOT think "bridezilla!" I mean, you are the star. For one day of your life. And chances are you, or your parents, are paying a GREAT deal of money to feed, entertain, and show an amazing time to all these guests. It should go the way you want it to. And the least they can do is stick to the one simple request you have made. Get over yourselves, people!