can i invite the kids i teach to the wedding,but not the reception

I think it's all or nothing. Plus you've gotta think about their parents and their other siblings. Why not just skip inviting them and take a photo with a sign saying something sweet to give to each of them?

No. Anyone invited to the ceremony must also be invited to the reception.

I know that churches technically are open to the public, so if someone "crashes" the ceremony you can't really stop them if it's in a church (this is a common thing done in my family--bring the kids to the ceremony even though they're not invited to the reception. Drives me nuts, but hey, that's their choice). But if you extend an invitation, it needs to be to the whole event.

How old are the kids? Remember that the parents will be the ones to have to take them if they're young. IMO, it's kinda rude to expect the parents to take time out of their day to come to your ceremony but not host them for any type of reception.

My daughter's 1st grade AND 3rd grade teachers did this, and it was so sweet! Many of the students and parents attended. No one ever expected to be invited to the receptions, and no one thought anything of that at all. I think one just sent a note home in their folder, and the other sent an email, and basically just said that if any of the kiddos would like to come, they would love to have them at the ceremony. After the ceremony, both brides took a photo with all the kiddies who came, and it was so precious for the kids and the brides. I say go for it! Congratulations to you.

No; I think it's strange. I teach 3rd grade, and while they/ their parents know I'm getting married, I'd never invite them to my wedding ceremony or reception. But, I'm a big believer in keeping personal life separate, so I say don't do it

When is your wedding?

I wouldn't. if they ask show a photo of you on your wedding day. but I wouldn't invite them to the ceremony. some of them might expect to go to the reception and if there are any misunderstandings on if they are invited to the reception it would create an awkward situation. I wouldn't bother.

I have thought about the same thing. I coach high school girls water polo. There is no way I could afford to have all of them at the reception and it would be inappropriate with all the alcohol. They are in high school so they can bring themselves. My fh is very involved with the team too.

I doubt very much that your problem would be that any of the children or their parents would expect to attend your reception. I think the parents would understand that and explain it to their children -- if the children even thought to ask. However, I agree with Lauren -- between a professional life and a personal life is a line, and it really shouldn't be crossed.

What grade are they in??

I think if they are younger (elementary school age), it would be okay as Kathy suggested.

If they are older, I wouldn't do it. The "all or nothing" idea is less of an issue, but I think when you're teaching high school and middle school aged kids, you really need to be careful about drawing the line between being a kid's friend and their teacher. ESPECIALLY if you are only planning to invite 18 of them, rather than all of them.. . .I would just play it safe and show them a couple pictures after the wedding at most.

I agree that my personal life should be that....personal..... but i coach the 18 girls..... so as any coach of 15-18 year old girls know..... they are all over a wedding.... ring,dress,hair..... Idk thinking it might be a role model thing.

One of my couples did this; they invited her 2d grade class to the ceremony, then while the adults went on to cocktail hour, the kids had wedding cake and punch in a tent (with the bride and groom). I thought it was a wonderful way to include them. There was nothing weird about it because they were kids and the cake was what they REALLY wanted, (besides seeing their teacher get married!)

I'm a teacher too and think this is a great idea! If you wind up not doing it though I would at least do the picture idea. I think that is cute. However make it clear that it is ceremony only. I really like Celia's comment and think that would be the way to go!

We got married on our college campus and invited our professors, my bosses from Student Life and my peer college work colleagues to the ceremony only. The reception was 30 minutes away. It was during the school year so they were all on campus anyway and could easily just show up if they wanted to. We sent them all an online invitation a week in advance to witness us exchange vows in the church. Quite a few people showed up and appreciated the thought.

I'm just saying sometimes people think you have to invite everyone to ceremony and reception but in my case and in yours I think it's fine. It would be cute to have your students at the ceremony, as long as they can conduct themselves in a manner that won't disrupt the ceremony.

I've heard this don't before, don't see a problem if you specify ceremony only- but what time is your ceremony? I'm sure they would be very excited!

I have known a lot of teachers who have done this. It's very common where I live. I didn't invite any to my wedding, but some of my kids did ask if they could come. We had a no children wedding so we left it as such.

But how do you tell them , specifically, that they are not invited to the reception? Im a nanny of 3 families, with a total of 6 kids who ask me daily if they can come to my wedding. I keep saying that its just going to be really small, but they are begging to come daily lol. I dont have room for 6 kids and 6 more adults at my reception. I cant think of a good way to say yes you can come to my wedding but not the reception. And our cake will be at the reception, not the church.

I am a high school teacher and my students joke all the time about coming to my wedding but they definitely will NOT be invited. I LOVE my kids and am extremely dedicated to them and my job. I think its sweet you want to include them, I understand that you coach them so you have more of a personal connection with them, but honestly I just do not think its appropriate. It may come off as gift-grabby, I would definitely not pay to have them at my reception ($$&dollar and I think it just blurs the line between personal and private life too much!

Kids don't even know what a reception is. You tell the parents if they want to bring the kids to the ceremony they are welcomed. Have cupcakes for them after the ceremony! They would love that!

Of course you can. My teacher got married when I was about 10 and it was so cool and special to go to the wedding. Mum took me and we left straight after. Didnt want to go to the reception anyway.

I remember going to my teacher's wedding ceremony in 6th grade. She gave us a cheaper version of the invitation that only included the ceremony info.