Calling off the wedding...ex-FH is at his Bachelor Party

Wait? So, you are calling off y'all's wedding because he's having a bachelor party?

Yea I'm not understanding

Is there something else going on, or is it just the fact that he scheduled it for that time and, I'm assuming, didn't stick to the plan?

She called off the wedding a few weeks ago.

Details...please do share so we can have a better understanding

Crystal has posted numerous times about her calling off the wedding...search back through her posts to find details...

crystal - this would annoy the F*** out of me too haha...heck, it annoys me that he is calling it his birthday party and he's not even my ex!

She called off the wedding some time ago, she's just giving us an update on what's been happening since.

Crystal, that is so annoying! He could have at least changed the day of his "birthday" party.

I called off the wedding in June. I'm just annoyed (as stupid as it may be) that he's still having his bachelor party even though he's remaining a bachelor for the foreseeable future.

It probably bothers you because the fun he is having is the same fun he would be having if the wedding was still on. Honestly, you called it off then he is entitled to do whatever he wants. It doesn't ease the sting but it's just what is bound to happen. IMO

That would irk me. What plans did he have for his Bachelor party?

They're at a baseball game and then going to some strip clubs. I wasn't annoyed by the plans before...just now.

@MC - I don't think it's about the fun (I'm having my own ) but there's something about it that just irks the crap outta me.

Is he still living at your place?

It's a VERY complicated situation but he moved out the day we broke up and today he moved back in TEMPORARILY. I have to go out of town for two weeks to take care of my dad who's having surgery and ex-FH offered to watch my dog. He also hasn't found an apartment yet so I said he could stay in the basement. I gave him a firm deadline of moving out by Sept 15 and all of his stuff by Sept 29.

Aww man I'm sorry to hear that u are dealing with all of this.. I hope everything works out for u hun

Crystal I think the reason it urks you might be because if you had not had to call off the wedding, this would have been his "bachelor" party and things would be going as planned. It may be just the disappointment of plans being spoiled. Not so much his having fun or wishing the relationship was still going on but the irritation that had he been what he needed to be, it would still have been his bachelor party and you would be moving towards your wedding day.

@Roe - I think you hit the nail on the head. I don't miss him or the relationship but I am sad about the situation.

You shouldn't even KNOW that he's still there. If you called it off in June, you need to let go.

If my friends had a party planned for me, I'd be sad if they dropped the plans just because the wedding was called off. It's at that point when people need their friends to lift them up.

It's a sucky situation, but two months later, it's time to move on. Go have some fun for yourself!!!

Wow thats terrible. would upset me too. your breakup is still fresh. its only august, but like earlier said, just take it in stride and try to let go. Its annoying it sucks but what can you do? its his life and his choice....I would have asked him to leave and stay gone. Letting him stay temporarily is a very sticky situation and can only do more HARM than good

^ HalloweenBride: not that I'm being a bitch here, but if you had to call off the wedding because your FH turned into a D-bag, would YOU move on just a mere 2 months later???!!!

Crystal: I dont post much on your threads, but I'm so glad to see your still with us. I'm glad that you're able to slowly but surely get your life back together. The heartbreak left you a mess to clean up & you're doing the best you can with what energy you have left. Although I'm not sure letting him stay there while you're away was a good idea. Whether it was pity for him, needing your dog to be watched, or both, it might do more harm when you come back & he's there. Like opening fresh wounds...

Good for you tho, for still holding your head up above the water. Please continue to update us.

Totally sympathize with you about this situation...it just brings back memories and eeverything...you could throw eggs or stuff...very good stress reliever...