Calling all first-time brides over 30

I will be 29 ( and 25 days lol) and i am slightly torn on some of these myself.

This is the first (and only) marriage for FH and me, so we would like to do some of the traditional things.

considering i have been drinking for the past decade... a huge binge of a bach party will not be happening. I would prefer going to a baseball game and keeping it low key just being with my girls.

I am having a church wedding, and would like to have a blusher. i figure if my cousin could wear white in church while her child walked down the aisle behind her, then i can pass as a "blushing bride".

I havent broached the subject of bouquet/ garter toss with FH... but i am pretty sure he would love any chance he would get to reach up my dress in a room full of our families and friends -- I would love to have an anniversary dance and give my bouquet to the last couple standing.

the other reason is because most of my girlfriends are already married, but there will be a good amount of unmarried men so...

I will be 32, about 8 days before I get married. And I am not doing any of those either.

Blusher is the veil you pull infront of your face. a veil is what trails behind you.

Ok phew I'm not alone! I know a lot of stuff is a matter of preference too. My grandfather asked me if I was going to where white for my wedding. He looked at me like "really?!?" when I said I was wearing white. I know I'm not foolin' anyone!

I will be 31 and FH 32, he comes from a very traditional Orthodox Christian from Eastern Europe so I am not planning to do the garter toss, I might do the bouquet toss since I still have quite a few gf who are still single; not doing a traditional wedding so will be skipping few other things

Oh, yeah. I'm probably going to toss a bouquet but no garter, I think being undress in public is just crass. What the heck is a blusher?

A lot of the tradtions you mention in my book have nothing to do with being too old to do it.

I'll be tossing a bouquet, but all women are welcome to join in just because I think it's fun to see who will catch it. we all know it has nothing really to do with who will get married next.

blusher veil is a old tradition that IMO has nothing to do with being around the block a few times either. a bride over 40 could have had less partners than a bride of 21.

so no, I don't relate. if I decide not to do something it's because I don't like it, not because I feel it has much to do with age.

Age? Really ladies? Your wedding is about celebrating your love, not about how many times you've been married or whether or not you've "been around the block." Lol. If that were true, I'd be getting married in a frickin' closet so no one could see! I'm having a huge party with Top 40 dance music, and a princess ball gown. Wearing white because it's beautiful& to say "It's OUR wedding and this is what WE want" ...as long as you're here to be happy that we found each other & to celebrate with us... anything goes! As far as wearing white and/or a blusher? Re: The people who think that's for virgins? What planet have they been on the last 40 years??! Use the traditions you like & to hell with what you DON'T want! Please don't allow your AGE or how many kids you have color any of it! )

I'll be 33 when I get married, not doing either of those things... We do have a bunch of single friends but the garter / bouquet is just not our thing. And I cannot see myself wearing a veil at the moment. lol.

Deb, I don't think we're using our age as an excuse - it's just that as some of us get older, some of the traditions just don't seem to be as important/fun, etc. I'm not doing certain things BECAUSE I'm 35 - I'm doing them because, as I get closer to 40, I find them pointless or trite or just not my style anymore. :-) I find it more liberating than restrictive.

And I love that this thread is still going on.