Calling all first-time brides over 30

Luckily my friends are either single or divorced. Most of the men will probably be running from the garter. I am inclined to skip it simply because I don't want him going up my dress in front of everyone.

I agree with Catherine! Do what you are comfortable with, most of those "traditions" aren't really traditions anyways. I am 30 and will be a month shy of 31 on my wedding day. We may do a bouquet toss but not the garter toss... Just do what you like and have fun!

It's YOUR wedding do what you want! I'm 30 and not doing any of those things but not because of my age just becasue I dont want to. There is no wrong or right its just what you want!

I just got married and I am 28. I did not do the bouquet toss or the garter either. Neither were missed!

I don't want to do the bouquet or garter toss but FH wants to do it. He isn't asking for much so I agreed.

I am 35, will be 36 on my wedding day. My veil has a blusher and i will be using it (it was my mom's), I don't care what anyone thinks about it :-)

We are NOT doing the garter and bouquet, for the same reasons you stated.

See I'm 32 as well, but my heels are high as hell. Why? Because I can rock that shit till I'm 90 if I wanna. Age ain't nothing but a number, honey, and as soon as I start acting old, then I'll start feeling old. And ain't nobody got time for that!!

I won't be doing a blusher either. I mean, who am I kidding. My kid will be at the wedding for crying out loud!!! LOL

I never thought that not wanting to do the garter or throw the bouquet was age related. I just don't like them....but maybe it's because of my age (43) LOL

I'm 25 and not doing any of that stuff.

I'll be 29 and I won't be having a blusher either- mostly because I think I will feel stupid hiding my face as if I'm a surprise to the groom. I didn't get why it's called a blusher until you just mentioned it! haha. Good on others brave enough though.

I saw an 'older' bride once on Four Weddings give her bouquet to the couple in the room that had been married the longest (his grandparents) instead of doing a toss. I thought it was a nice alternative.

I'm also in my 30s but I'm relatively shy so didn't date anyone before or anything like that so I guess in that sense I could technically be considered a blushing bride lol but I'm not doing the blusher or any of the things mentioned either. The only thing I feel a little old to be doing is have my dad walk me down the aisle, I don't know why, maybe it's my independent streak or I am just weird haha...I'm not having a wedding party and wanted to incorporate my mom somehow as well, and I had seen other brides have both parents walk them down the aisle and I liked that idea but thought for the small venue it might be kinda crowded so I was thinking of having my mom and dad walk down before me together, I know it's not traditional but hey. lol I'm not sure sure if I would have done any of those other things if I was younger either though. Just not really my style so I would agree with those that said to do it how you and your intended want!

What is a blusher!?

I am the same way and not looking forward to the awkwardness if no one goes to catch the boquet so looking for alternative because I do want to do something with it!

I'm 30 and I want the blusher since I'm getting married at the venue and not a church I wanted to incorporate a semi church ceremony if that makes sense FH mom and my mom were completely disgusted we weren't having it in a church (oh we'll lol ) but I'm not doing the bouquet and garter toss it's so cheesy and stops the fun in the wedding but I agree with the stuff your saying! High five to the older sexier brides

Hey I'm not 30......26 but I understand not wanting to do some things and you don't have to. The garter toss may be ok but as far as the bridal bouquet I saw something really cute on "Four Weddings" where a woman did something different. Instead of a bouquet toss, she walked over and handed her bouqet to the couple in the room who has been married the longest. I thought it was sweet.

Im not doing those things as well. But the garter/flower toss is because I find it very sexist. Im also not taking Fhs name and i want to make it very clear during the ceremony and reception that I am keeping my name

I will be 40 and no heels for me ( foot surgery already, no thanks not worth pain). FH wants garter toss thing, I am ok with bouquet toss but most of my guests are married or as old or older than me. Have not decided on blusher viel or not, still looking for a dress. I will be skipping a lot of extra BS stuff you don't need, like little picture frames, escort cards for assigned seats, and absolutely no bachelorette party. Hello I am 40 and we have lived together for 3.5 years by then. I do want my father to walk me down the aisle and praying he is here and healthy enough since he is fighting cancer.

I've never heard of a blusher either. We are both first timers and were very concerned about the absurdity of the ritual considering our ages. We got over it though.

We are skipping bouquet toss, garter, shower, bachelor/bachelorette parties and possibly the big wedding party intro. We want to keep it as understated as we can.

Don't psych yourself out about it and rob yourself of a good day. People will be happy for you in whatever way you choose to celebrate. I was going to get a MOB dress or a simple pageant gown in ivory but ended up getting a full-on sparkly princessy ballgown. I am wearing it despite my age and even if I get snickers, I don't care -- I love it and I know FH will love it and that's what matters! Make it a day you'll enjoy and remember fondly.

ps. @Susan, my dad is also battling cancer and we're praying he'll be strong enough to attend. You're in my prayers.

Thanks! I will say prayers for you and your Dad as well! I would even prefer no shower but I doubt that I can get away with that, I have owned my house for 14 years already, don't NEED anything for a house.

NO NO NO! At our wedding, no garter toss, no bouquet toss, no father/daughter dance, or vise versa, no chicken dance, no electric slide, no dollar dance, no cake cutting and no long speeches...but that's just us.

@Jet, what is the difference between a blusher and a veil? I need to google that!

I am 30- going to be 31 on our wedding day. We are not doing the garter toss or the bouquet toss. Also, I am wearing a veil because I want to.