Brother getting married on birthday.

This is your brothers wedding. Birthdays really aren't a big deal. You're one year older. You have a birthday every single year. You can celebrate literally any other day. Be happy for your brother. It's crazy that you're even upset about this.

I am getting married 2 days before my Dads birthday. I am not going to have everyone sing but I am bringing out a little cake and letting him blow out a candle. I highly doubt it will effect your future celebrations.

Maybe it's because my dad and I share a birthday so I never really had my own birthday as a kid, but I think it's odd of your brother to choose that date! When choosing our date, we spent a lot of time making sure that it would not interfere with other people's birthdays, anniversaries, graduations, etc. So him choosing that date IS weird/uncouth to me. We gave up our ideal date because it conflicted with someone's birthday.

However, he did do the courteous thing and asked if it was ok. Did your parents tell you that you had no choice in the matter? Either way, because you said yes and because your brother thought of your birthday and such, I don't think you should be miffed. I know it seems like your birthday and their anniversary will conflict in the future, but as you grow older and have families of your own, you probably won't spend those days together anyhow.

Ok, I completely understand where you are coming from. My brother and fiancé came over and asked me if it would be ok, initially I wasn't thrilled. (Call me petty, but for the last 35 years that has been my day) but she explained the venue was only available that day and it really meant a lot to her. I looked my baby brother in the eyes and told him I was ok with it, because as other people have posted "you only get married once [if you're lucky], and you have a birthday every year [if you're really lucky].

However, what people are missing is that, this is an immediate family member, not an uncle, a cousin, or a close friend. This is a sibling. This is a person that has been at every birthday party celebrating you. Now, you have to turn around and acknowledge/celebrate 2 other people on "your" day. Birthdays are huge in my family as well; you wouldn't be here if it wasn't for that day, so I totally get it.

As I had to point out to my husband (which he agreed with me on), I can never celebrate "my birthday" on my birthday because now any event will turn into (my birthday/his wedding anniversary) which inevitably will lead to "who gets to have what year for which occasion" she and I can't both plan events [on our respective days] that we want my brother/her husband to attend. If we plan events, which family members go to which event? Now, all of this is speculation, and I pray that we never have a conflict. My opinion is no, you're not wrong for feeling some type of way, however, you agreed and for this year, you have to let it go and be happy for your brother.

As for the posters "who haven't cared about their birthday in years", well sorry for you. You birthday is kind of a big deal, without it, you'd be dead.

My brother got married on my 25th birthday that fell on a Saturday. I was so upset I got a rash the day of the wedding, and had to wear the most hideous dress ever made, while normally I’m the most fashionable person in the room. As a Leo, it was crushing to me. Two years later I’m still pissed, I think about it every time my birthday comes near and gives me rotten feelings inside. How will I ever not be made at this girl for overriding my special day with hers??

My brother got married on my 22nd birthday. Being at an open bar on my wedding was amazing. Be grateful.

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Well birthdays are important to me so thats that! but they asked and you said yes do you think its fair to now be upset?it isn't and as long as you tell your brother up front you dont want to do a speech so be it. but maybe you should be honest with yourself (psychology major here) seems that you are a little jealous of your brother and the fact that he's getting all of the attention. "favorite child" instead plan something to do maybe the night prior or the next weekend and celebrate with friends. have free drinks , food and make the best of your night!