Brother getting married on birthday.

Please, get over yourself. How old are you?

I feel you're wrong to be upset. My birthday is 12/20, five days from Christmas. If I had a dollar for everytime a family member of mine actually FORGOT my birthday due to the holidays, or had concerts on my birthday even, I'd be close to a millionaire right now. I had two birthday parties in my life. One no one even came to when I was 10, the other had to happen over a week beforehand because otherwise it would be too close for my friends having to go with their families for the holidays. Seriously, it's just another day. I barely celebrate my birthdays, unless FH takes me out. I don't understand why birthdays are that big of a deal to adults, other than kids, that I can definitely understand.

I've had to go to both a wake and a memorial on my birthday. That's how life is. Its a big party with your loved ones. Why not just enjoy the day.

They asked you- you said yes... you need to move on.

What's better than free food and booze on your birthday?!

I would feel honored bc they feel like that is such as special day : )

One of my bffs is getting married on my birthday this year and I was so excited!! DOUBLE CELEBRATION IF YOU ASK ME! Get over it, enjoy the free booze on your birthday!!

This seems like something a 14-year old would be upset about, not an adult.

FH and I are in a wedding this summer on FH's birthday. He doesn't care. He's actually kind of excited about it; he gets to go to a great party and be with his friends.

Often wedding dates are hard to secure so I feel a wedding should take priority over a birthday. Perhaps you can do a celebration another day or they can sing to you at the rehearsal dinner if it is a big deal to you

At least you'll never forget their anniversary.

My friend went to her cousins wedding on her birthday, one of our guests 'dirty 30' is the day before our wedding, and in the last wedding I was in, it was a bridesmaids birthday. Look on the bright side , you have a huge party being thrown for you with all of your family members, and you can always celebrate afterwards!

Weird. My friend got married on her birthday last year. My friends birthday is on my wedding day but she's not able to make it, she lives out of state. I think partly because it's her bday and travel expenses which I understand. I have a friend that always treats her bday like it's special and takes off work but it's kind of ridiculous because she's almost 30. I celebrated my 30th last year at school. I think you're making a big deal out of this when there shouldn't be.

Well now I'm confused. You're upset that your brother's wedding will push your birthday aside and be seen as more important, but then you end your post by worrying that people will pay too much attention to you and sing happy birthday... at a wedding... against your wishes?

I haven't read the comments yet, but my advice would be to figure out whether you're upset because you won't get the attention you do want, or because you will get the attention you don't want. And then move on either way.

The answer is yes--it is ridiculous to be upset about this.

I purposely looked at the calendar and avoided people's birthdays... Why did they pick your birthday of all days? I would feel some type of way too.

Yes, it is absolutely ridiculous that you cannot get over yourself for ONE DAY for your BROTHER'S wedding.

Piece of advice:

Please at least pretend to enjoy yourself at the wedding. H's brother was a major brat at our wedding and it really did hurt, a lot. AND he embarrassed himself with his childish behavior in front of everyone, and left a terrible first impression with my family.

I doubt the OP is coming back but...I echo a PP who mentioned that you get to have free food, alcohol, cake, and dancing on your birthday for this year. That's an AWESOME way to have fun and celebrate both the couple and your birthday. I get that from now on you'll have to share the day, so I can see how it's mildly annoying. However, wedding > birthday. Additionally, having a birthday, even coming from a family where birthdays are a big deal (we're even expected to call the spouses of long deceased family members on their birthdays), you do not own that day. AND you gave permission, whether you felt forced to or not. Just go, celebrate, and enjoy never forgetting their birthday.

Don't be selfish, you're an adult. Celebrate your damn birthday a different day.

I rarely get to celebrate my birthday on my actual birthday due to work, school, family/friends being busy, etc., so I don't understand why it matters.

It's a birthday, you get one for every year you are alive. Just because you can't have a big celebration on this one doesn't mean you can't for the next one. And nobody besides the couple really needs to celebrate the anniversary, I think you'll be fine