Bringing new baby to bridal shower

Like I said, hosts don't have to change their events because someone had a kid, new parents have to change their ability to attend events. sometimes you can go and sometimes you can't.

I dunno. I don't have kids, by the way, but I'd say let it go. It's a 2-month old. Chances are it'll sleep the whole time.

Are you worried that the baby will take the shine away from you?

I think i am a little selfishly concerned that the baby would take the spot light.... No one has seen the baby yet so everyone is going to be all over him and I don't really want the shower to be all about baby talk.

I don't have kids so I won't comment on leaving the baby along but as a guest I don't think I'd be that upset since she's a family member. You might just cause more hurt feelings by telling her the baby can't come or risk her declining not only the shower but the wedding.

People need to leave their babies at home with a trusted loving caregiver(father of baby,grandmothers). If that person truly does not have anyone close enough than you should be sensitive to that.

My cousin brought her baby to my shower, nobody minded. She's so beautiful!! I'm only sad I didn't get a chance to hold her that day.

ETA: A baby will take some attention but the spotlight will still be on the bride at the shower. To be honest, I wouldn't have minded sharing the spotlight for a few minutes. I was pulled in 100 directions that day, it was exhausting.

I still think you'll be ok. I had two very pregnant women at my shower and the talk did turn to baby talk a bit, but not too overpowering. But the talk also turned to our workplace (where most of us work) or my nephew (who wasn't even there).

The conversation won't be about you the entire time, but it will be at the moments it needs to be.

I wouldn't worry.

Ugh, I'm torn.

If these babies can't go, chances are their moms won't be going to the shower. I know if I was breastfeeding my 2 month old and was told I couldn't bring them with me, I wouldn't go. I would also wear the baby the whole time though.

I've never been to a bridal shower that was adults only, but you're right on the fact that it should be all or nothing or people are going to be hurt. If the invite said adults only, she will probably understand but she will also probably not come.

I would just be firm in my rules. If you invite one baby, you have to have them all there to be fair. Even in my opinion one baby at an adult function is too much. Good luck.

I have a 3.5 month old who I am breastfeeding and she will not take a bottle so of I was invited to an event like this I wouldn't be able to come without her. If you are fine with her not coming then I would let her know it's adults only.

I don't want kids and won't be having them but I assume that if I am having a event like a bridal shower that people would bring their young ones. I don't think she is being rude by assuming. Yes, she can leave the kid home with hubby but I think most people assume that a baby is not a big deal at a bridal shower. If it is an issue, just have the host politely call her and let her know that the space cannot accommodate multiple babies and because other moms cannot bring their babies, you guys can't play favorites. There may be hurt feelings but that's always a possibility.

I don't know... as per the advice that its ok to call her and tell the baby is not welcome, its an adult only affair..... Sure. You can do whatever you want, and at the end of the day you will. If one of my husband's family members called me and said that, I would just be polite and accept what you said. I probably wouldn't go to the shower as I would likely think it was quite bitchy (Just being honest), and if I didn't know the person all that well, I would probably hang on to notion of said person being bitchy.

I don't think you need to worry about a 2 month old baby taking the spotlight from you. My husband's cousin just got married and another cousin had her 3 month old baby at the wedding. For many of us, it was the first time we met the baby. The spotlight was still very much on the bride and groom.

There was a 3 month old at my shower and it was fine. Why so much hate here for infants? If you are afraid the babies will steal your thunder I think it is time to reevaluate a few things. I believe that a wedding is no place for a baby, but a bridal shower? I think everyone is overreacting a bit. If you are willing to tell someone not to come to your shower because they are bringing a 2 month old, that friendship obviously doesn't mean that much to you. It is a freaking bridal shower. Get over it.

Why not? It's not like the child will be eating, drinking and running around. The baby will probably sleep most of the time. I don't see it being a problem especially if she breast feeds.

There is no baby hate. There is a notion that babies must be welcome everywhere when an event is adult only. If op let's this one attend then the other 5 should be invited. A bridal shower with 6 Infants would be crazy and a bit disrespectful. If you have a kid you make grown up choices about what that means for your social life. Baby is welcome sometimes and not others. Nothing wrong with that.

A bridal shower with 6 infants would be disrespectful? Why?

Because that would turn in to Babyland talk and story swapping instead of a bridal shower. I really am a suckered for babies, really enjoy them, but a bridal shower with 6 infants does NOT sound like a good time. I just do not understand why new mom's feel their babies belong at adult only events. Like I said, I missed my fair share to stay at home to feed my children. Hosts should not have to alter having adult only events unless they volunteer to do so. If you are invited to an adult only event it is rude and entitled to think that doesn't apply to you.

There will be baby talk because people at your event have babies and children and these subjects come up when you socialize with people who have kids. It will still be all about you in the big picture. 2 months old is so tiny and if she is breastfeeding she likely can't leave it with a caregiver even if she might want to.