Bring Your Own Lawn Chair? Tacky?

See now that's a good response Celia....and that makes perfect sense

Oh lord, you really have to name call?! Look, this is where the stupid drama starts, we have opinions, good or bad, & some damn person (not even the OP in this case) gets their panties all in a twist. For nothing. It's not your wedding STBMsMullings (since you wanna call out names), so why are you so damn adamant about making sure we know it's none of our business? This is a public forum, I, as well as others, are allowed to speak our opinions. If it is truly that horrible, let the OP or WWleeor flag or take down the thread. It's not your place to monitor what kind of comments we are or are not allowed to speak.

@Kelsie ... Could you BORROW chairs for this? I mean, take care of the "dirty work" yourself with the help of friends and family? This would still save you the cost of renting the chairs but everyone would still have a place to sit.

Please understand that I think your wedding sounds like it will be really fun, but if there are bouncy castles, etc. and I don't even have a place to sit I'd be really annoyed. I agree with Celia to host the party you can afford if you can't round up 400 chairs to borrow.

@Amy S- I didn't sign up for wedding wire to go back and forth with someone. I signed up to seek advice, and give advice and simply because i love anything Wedding related. Which is why i was upset at the negativity this post received. i did read the posts which is why I wrote what I wrote. It wasn't an attack, or anything personal. Just like you probably didn't feel you were attacking her. We're all grown women planning the wedding of our dreams, even if its different than what the other brides dream of. So I addressed the OP's question and i'ma leave it at that.

I wasn't saying that she shouldn't give a sh** about her guests, I was just saying that if chairs are what is going to hold her guests back from coming, then that is their problem, not hers, especially if that's the way she wants it. Comparing it to having her guests pay for their meal as well is a tad bit extreme to me. If the ceremony is short, the chair thing should matter for all of a half hour. I will end my opinion with that.

Oh I'm so sorry that you think I'm, or anyone else is being mean. We are just such big meanies to perhaps give the OP a bit of advice that is, IDK actually useful. We are the most horrible people for wanting to know more about her plans, giving her ways to change it, when in fact she hasnt said one word. So how do we know SHE thinks it's mean. No the problem is you or someone else thinking we are bullying. But this isnt your thread, so I really dont care if YOU think I'm mean. Let the OP tell me, then I'll care...

And it's pretty damn funny you are talking about mean comments, when on my thread about wearing sneakers for the wedding, a few comments were saying in ways that it's ugly & not wedding appropriate, or whatever. Where were you on my thread calling out others for being meanies? Oh wait, they were doing exactly what I'm doing now: giving advice that is possibly negative... Hmmmm double standards I see....

I like Amy's thread better

LOL me too^^

Is Kelsie new? Maybe she hasn’t logged back on since she posted and doesn’t realize how many comments she has. I remember when I first got on WW I came back a day or two later and there were tons of comments, and I wasn’t expecting such an overwhelming response of answers. Maybe that’s why she hasn’t said anything.

1) Invite as many guests as you would like! It is your wedding and you can do whatever you would like!

2) I can see how that would be totally acceptable in some states! Some, maybe not. I think this depends on personal preferance! Think of what your family would think- ask YOUR family and friends their opinions... I am guessing they will be different than the ones on here!

3) Have a nice day ; )

Seriously, holy cow... how did this get so out of control?

ANYWAY... I agree with the ladies that are saying if someone gets offended because they have to bring a chair? Ummmm... get over it? Don't come?

but I ALSO agree that if the guest list has grown so large that you can't even afford to rent chairs for your guests you may want to consider scaling back a bit... or a lot.

Good luck!

This thread blew UP! I clicked on it when I saw it had only 59 responses because I figured there had to be drama a'brewing.

I totally agree 100% times a million with Celia. Have the wedding you can afford where you can properly thank all your guests individually and provide them seating. It is wonderful that you want to have all these people see you get married but what is seen as casual for a backyard party is considered tacky for a wedding. Sorry, I said it.

I'm with Lynzey!

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Are the images really necessary?

Again I stick with my opinion that it is not good etiquette to ask your guest to bring their own (lawn) chairs to your own wedding. If budget really is an issue, as others have suggested, maybe trim the guest list? Or forgo the bouncy house to rent some chairs.

@Aimee - If you've been around enough you would know they are ALWAYS necessary

Oh and @Aimee

If you stick around I encourage you to change your avatar so we can recognize you better!

(**Please note you can only do this through a computer, not a tablet or smartphone!** -- Thanks Mrs.S) Avatars are often how fellow community members can identify you! We certainly understand privacy concerns, so the picture doesn't have to be of you-- just something unique to you, your wedding, or something that you love! This will make it easier for us to remember who you are and follow your progression of posts.

To do this:

- Click 'Settings' at the top right-hand side of your screen

- Click 'Profile and Privacy Settings'

- Below 'Account Image' on the left, hover your mouse over the avatar and click 'Change Image'

- Select an image from your Photo Album, your Avatars, or Upload from your computer & click 'Update Image'

Images is people too, damnit!!

For now on, to keep from being a meanie, I will only post one word: popcorn!

And yes, pictures speak a thousand words, they are completely necessary!!!

Kelsie - to answer your question after thinking about it. My initial reaction is "OMG what is she thinking?!?" but on the other hand, I was going to just not include spoons in my rental to save $100. I believe someone else posted this before but my initial reaction goes along with wedding etiquette whereas my other thought it that it would save money! I think whatever you do you should just stick behind and realize people will be upset with things you do, no matter what it may be!