Bring Your Own Lawn Chair? Tacky?

Local parking or not say its... 150 cars you'll still be walking, you want me to drag a chair and a gift??? My hands may be too full with a chair to lug anything else

MJ your daughters reception was for 10 hours long???? Wow y'all must have had that liquor flowing! lol sounds like a good time.

I feel like it doesn’t matter what type of wedding you are having, it could cost 500k and be gorgeous and people would still find something to complain about. That being said, people are going to complain. You are going to get people that think it’s great and you are going to get people that think it’s incredibly tacky and you’ll probably hear about it. Me personally would not be offended if someone asked me to bring my own chair but on the other hand knowing some people would be offended I wouldn’t request guests to bring their chair for my own wedding. At the end of the day the decision is yours.

Okay Leeor, I will be nice, I almost forgot my manners. So I will just say Good Luck and leave it at that.

It wouldn't stop me from going to the wedding but I would definitely be annoyed. If you don't mind people being a little frustrated then your good. Plus, a lot of people might forget.

WOW. There are seriously people who would decline to a WEDDING just because they have to bring a lawn chair? WOW. That is the biggest bullcrap excuse I've ever heard. Just because its a wedding doesn't mean it has to be a big formal affair. Weddings mean different things to different people. Maybe the OP's vision is something like a family reunion. Who knows. If someone declines to come to a wedding just because they have to bring a lawn chair they really didn't want to come to begin with.

TACKY! Who goes somewhere and has to bring their own seat especially to a wedding.. please provide this for them .. You'll be receiving a gift from all of these people the least you can do is have a chair for them

My daughter went to a "bring your own chair" wedding a few years back. I asked her what she thought about it. She said that it really depends on your group of guests. This particular wedding was in a field, the pews were logs that had been split and sanded, the food was "bring a dish", and there were kegs of beer. The groom wore a flannel shirt and a cowboy hat, and the bride wore a knee length white dress with cowboy boots. All of the guests were told to bring a lawn chair. She said it was one of the most laid back, fun weddings she has attended. Was it different that the elegant venue, plated dinner weddings she's been to? Absolutely. But, everyone knew what to expect, and they were fine with it.

Still, there weren't 400 people...

And to add one more detail, the guests were young professionals who were very used to wearing suits and ties at the office every day. Their weddings had all been pretty buttoned down, by-the-book affairs. The thought of something far more casual and relaxed seemed great to them, and the pics proved that they partied well into the night.

The open minded side of me has an answer along the lines of what Mrs G said. But the wedding etiquette side of my head is buzzing and throbbing at the thought of having to provide my own seating at a wedding/family reunion/festival and whatever everyone else has called it in previous posts.

It's a touchy situation to ask your guests to provide anything other than the pleasure of their presence at your wedding. Honestly, the description you provided does not sound like a wedding to me. It sounds like an awesome and fun time for a whole lotta people. It is good to be thinking these things out now when you have so much time to plan.

I hope you have a beautiful day and enjoy it to the fullest!

Different strokes for different folks....quite honestly girl ask your people not us....

Lately I've been asking my BMs different questions getting their opinions.

My mom threw massive parties in the yard all the time when I was growing up but... no one ever had to bring a seat. Also, consider the elderly guest and those who will have trouble carrying the extra weight. I wouldn't assume that other guest will help them. Some of your guest will travel with children which will be difficult and some guest (like myself) will have to purchase lawn chairs. Will there be extra chairs available for someone who forgets a chair? The good thing is that if the party is fun (which it sounds like it will be) people will rarely be sitting down anyways; however I think a host should always keep the needs of the guest in mind. food, seating, restrooms and shade are important considerations. Perhaps you can borrow some chairs. Do you have a church or is the a local church with a hall that can lend you chairs for your occasion? maybe you can put blankets and pillows out picnic style? get picnic tables? I think there there are some creative solutions to consider

I wouldn't mind having to bring my own chair. But, I would definitely rent some for the guests who don't own any. It wouldn't be a big deal to me and it certainly wouldn't stop me from attending. I think it depends on your crowd though.

It's a great thing that none of these people are attending your wedding. You're asking for an opinion, not a put down. Here's how I see it, the people invited to your wedding (even at 400), should be people you love and love you! The people who made it to my guest list are people who have always been supportive of my relationship, and people I talk to on a frequent basis. So anyone that "wouldn't attend nor would bother to include anything in the congratulatory card" should gladly decline because Obviously being happy for you on your special day is less important than their selfish thoughts, and you should be happy to cut them out of your list. Why would you want someone there that will be all judgmental? So tu sum it up, the people who deserve to be there will gladly figure out a way to make it happen if that's your request. I would personally provide the chairs for convenience, and the presentation of the wedding. You'll be in control of everything beforehand. Or maybe just rent a few! You'll figure out how many you need after the RSVP's. why not design a website somewhat explaining your vision for the wedding? Once again, it's YOUR wedding. And I'm sure it'll be a great time!!!

Also, those people who will take you asking them to BYOLC as you don't "give a sh*t" about their own personal comfort and will never talk to you again, do not deserve an invite, or to even be a part of your life!!!! That's so dramatic and ridiculous. I'm sorry some people took your question as an invitation to bash your wedding. Annoyed!

Good Lord, some of you guys are cranky today. If she wants 400 people there, let her have 400 people. I could have easily invited that many to mine -- some people have big families and they multiply quickly, but that doesn't mean you aren't close to them or don't want to celebrate with them. Or they're well-liked and have lots of friends. And for all I know, "backyard" is a few acres of farmland or something -- not uncommon in this part of the country. I actually think it's awesome that she has so many people she and her FH love who would want to celebrate with them.

And as far as the original question goes, if you're shooting for an elegant, upscale wedding, it'd be odd to bring a lawn chair. But for a backyard wedding with a bounce castle? I'd be totally fine with it -- just slip a little enclosure in the invite (or drop a line at the bottom) that lets people know it's casual and to bring a lawn chair. But I'd probably also buy/rent some (maybe like 10% of the total coming).

PS - invite me! I'm in Nebraska and this sounds like fun.

What is this, becoming a blood bath? Jeez everyone calm down. Negative or positive, we are all allowed to have our opinions. Considering the OP hasnt spoken up once during this whole thing, the opinions will continue to flow, until she takes control or states it's her official plan is (rent chairs or BYOLC). Chill people. Let us (negatives) have our dang opinions. Not all the world is bright & shiny, & there is guaranteed to be atleast a small hanful (if not more) that will not appreciate lugging their chairs around. Better to see both sides of her decision clearly, regardless of what she chooses, than to be blindsided when you hear comments from your own guests.

What the hell has happened to Wedding Wire?

I guess some people who posted questioned the logic of inviting that many people when you can't afford chairs for them. You throw the party you can afford. Asking people to bring their own chairs is tacky.

Simple enough?