Bridezilla NO....MOBridezilla YES!!!!!!!!!!

Is she contributing financially?

I mean, my mom is definitely frustrating. She is trying to micro manage our wedding, but I know she is just excited. It's definitely difficult because her constant options, questions, and suggestions are overwhelming and add stress to the planning process. I've tried to explain that to her, but she still continues. I haven't found a solution yet, but I'm trying to work with her, cuz I still love her. Even when she bugs me to death.

I do not plan on speaking to my mom for a while. She is (was) the biggest mom-Zilla! Super upsetting, she tried to dictate everything in my wedding, you are not alone!

No pay, no say. Stop talking wedding plans with her.

I love the saying " no pay, no say"

That's so hard! It stinks I haven't had that with my mom it I've had a similar type deal with my FMIL and it's miserable

My mom is acting similarly. Like Mna said, if she's not paying she's not really a huge factor in the planning so keep her out of it. If you need help ask other friends or family who won't tell her about it.

I am having that same issue with my mother. She says I am not telling her stuff but I do and have proof that I do. She also wants things to go her way and is causing scenes and starting arguement with other people in the family. So you are not alone in this. I ended up blowing up at a family gathering and things kinda settled down but if your mom is like mine ......stubborn to the core.

My mom keeps throwing a pity party when I talk wedding plans with my fmil... she has said on more than one occasion "I'm the mother of the bride, I'm the most important"

I kinda wish that was my problem ... I try to get my mother involved but no luck yet she completely ignored the idea of me having a wedding and it hurts because I'm her only girl and we've always been close

My mom is more of a bridezilla than me. It's pretty humorous.

Take a step back, Joanna. Your mother's daughter -- you -- are getting married. As a former MOB, I can only tell you how my daughter's wedding affected me (and no, I wasn't facing that wedding without her father or brother at my side).

Suddenly, I was immersed in memories of my own wedding -- the wedding of my daughter's father and I. I remembered everything, from the planning, to shopping for the gown, to the music, to my mother's gown and my father's tux, to the walk down the aisle, to my Stargazer lily bouquet, to my bridesmaids, to aunts and uncles (long gone) who were seated at the VIP tables, to posing stiffly for the photos, to the cocktail hour, to the reception, and to the honeymoon.

Losing her husband, your father, and her son, your brother, is a bitter moment in the monumental memories that flood all mothers of brides. Remember, please, that the family members she always believed would be a part of this amazing day are gone. If she's acting out, try to forgive her. She's hurting, even if she looks like those wounds healed long ago.

To the best of your ability, yes her to death. Don't argue with her. Honor her on the day of your wedding. Believe me, she has her own private pain. If it spills over to you, accept it (she accepted much of the pain you caused her while you were growing up). You are beginning an exciting chapter of your life...she isn't. Cut her some slack and if anyone complains about her, just say, "Hey, that's my mother you're talking about." It's just life, and it's the best advice I can give you.

PS: So what if your shower is within walking distance of her house? In the scheme of life, does it really matter?

Yup my mother was like this. It got so bad and to the point she was just out of control that we had to change the venue 2 weeks before the wedding and did the "ultimate sin" yes we uninvited my mother.

Yes my mom is paying for the wedding and I don't mind her opinions, she comes up with some good ideas. I'm dealing with my own grief that my dad won't be walking me down the aisle and all she keeps saying is that "I'm going to be an emotional wreck the day of your wedding." I'm also dealing with weight loss issues to the point where I'm getting bariatric surgery, she's lost over 100 lbs in the last 5 years, yes a huge accomplishment, but keeps saying "mama's going to look sexy at your wedding." It's the things I've talked to her before about but it's like the wedding is all about her but then she turns around and says things are my choice.

Yes!!! My mom is driving me crazy! But I do know it comes from a place of love, I'm sure your mom wants the best for you an your fh and for you guys to enjoy your day so try an be easy on her. When I wanna strangle my mom I just take a day or so break from her haha. My parents are paying half though so I kinda have to let her give her opinions good luck!

My mom is helping to contribute financially for my wedding, and she is letting me do whatever I want, so no momzilla. But, she is getting really overbearing and too involved. Luckily, I'm having a destination wedding, so my wedding planning is cut in half and I won't have to get overly stressed out.

There may be some ideas or things that she says you have to have because it was a part of her wedding to your father and its sentimental to her. Because she is helping pay yes she should get some input but it still has to be special to you too. When she brings things up you dont want to do it may be as simple as saying: (blank) just doesn't feel like something that FH and I would do or want. Yes there will be things missing that neither of you had planned because your father wont be with you, and it could be her partly overcompensating for the missing parts. I hope you will both be able to work things out and have the wedding you want.

I actually haven't had too many issues with my mom. It's pretty surprising, really. The issues are coming from my dad's wife. She has all of these ideas (which is great that she is excited), but she comes up with something and bam it's happening. She is adding things that don't even fit in with what my vision is. I feel like none of my ideas and plans of what my wedding would be are even going to happen. I'm getting to the point where I'm not even excited about the party portion of it. And yes the answer is they are helping pay. So I have to sit her and get the wedding that I will hate. I've heard people talk about them not wanting anyone to help financially and now I know why. I don't get why they would even want to pay and have me hate what they are doing. I can't imagine ruining someone's wedding ideas. I mentioned to my dad that I didn't want this particular decorative item that I know his wife was pushing. He said to me, "well you already told her it was OK for her to do". A - no I didn't. I said I thought it did look nice but we didn't need it. B - does that even matter? I'm telling you now that I don't want it and what? Is it going to ruin her wedding dreams if she can't do it? Last I checked this was supposed to be my special day, but seriously it's turning into her second wedding. I'm only doing this once and I'm not really looking forward to it. I'll be happy that at the end of the day I married the man I love and don't have to hear anymore from them. I really know this sounds super ungrateful, but I just don't get why someone would offer to pay, then dictate everything for a wedding which is a once in a lifetime thing that is supposed to be about the bride and groom. I'm sorry that your dealing with this as well. I get that people, especially parents get excited but thete comes a point when they cross the line.

My mom is contributing so she thinks this is her wedding. Sure she drives me nuts but it's all coming from a good place. Luckily we have agreed on a lot of things though so she not a mobzilla. She nuts but not mobzilla. I would just hear her out I'm sure she only wants the best for you. If you truly hate something I'd sit down and try to have a calm conversation with her and see if you guys can compromise on things.

And my advice is to try and sit down with her and let he know how you feel. That's what my plan is. I'm just planning to say that I feel like I'm loosing all control of any part of this special day and I feel like it is turning into someone else's day. I truly appreciate that they are excited and am so grateful that they are willing to help pay for so much and just ask that they please let me take the reigns on a bit more. Good luck.