Bridezilla NO....MOBridezilla YES!!!!!!!!!!

My FMIL has always made obnoxious comments. Her daughter got married last year and was a MOZilla. FSIL leaned on me a lot when she was stressed. She kept acting like it was her wedding and wanting to do things that FSIL would hate. I had to make sure she was included in the bachelorette party because she threw a hissy for about it. The rest of the girls in the BP were annoyed and didn't want parents around but we had to explain it was easier to have her there for half of it than have WWIII in the family.

This year it's my turn to start wedding planning and we're looking for a balance. My mom passed away so I don't have her for any big the planning but FMIL can be mean (great at other times!) For the most part we get along really well because I tolerate her obnoxious behavior more than her kids. My mom was bipolar so I'm used to it.

But a great example is she made me send bout invites and make an event of dress shopping because FSIL wouldn't let her go but and she wanted to meet my MOH. I planned a date around her schedule then she flipped when I wasn't able to sleep over the night before (I was at a work event until 1am). She didn't show up! But wanted to see pictures?!? Frustrating... so I know what you're going through. For peace in the family, I'd say compromise on the little things. Pick your battles. It'll be less stress and your wedding Will still be beautiful! Good luck

Sure. Mothers get carried away! But remember that's your mom and you'll only get one. Although this is a happy occasion she is losing you as well. So that's three people that she loves gone. You are going to go off and start a life with FH. Be understanding, and try to see her view point. Best of luck

What centerpiece said

I can understand where you're coming from. My engagement got off to a rocky start with my mom too, for the same reasons. She has this idealistic and somewhat out of date idea of what a wedding is but really, it's what a wedding WAS. The wedding industry has changed so much since our mothers were married and I think that's part of why we are struggling with our moms so much. On top of what Centerpiece said (she covered the emotional aspect of it) where as our moms want what is best for us. They want our day to be beautiful and perfect. Sometimes they get ahead of themselves in pursuit of the goal and you need to just sit her down and calmly talk to her and tell her exactly what she's doing and how it's making you feel. Tell her how much you appreciate her enthusiasm for your wedding day and the love she has for you but tell her exactly what you want so there are no miscommunications. Trust me, she has your best interest at heart. Sometimes actions just muddle up the sentiment.