Bridesmaidzilla! Or is it me??

Too much Drama ALREADY! I agree with all of these ladies, you need to nip this in the bud and quick! You didn't initially have her in your wedding as a BM and there was a reason for that, something in you probably knew she would be like this and that's why she wasn't in the initial cut! Go with your first mind and tell her that you revisited the issue and that you simply can't have her as a BM. Period.

Nicely stated, OTW!

Patty please go read the story I posted Sunday Night about Bridesmaidzilla. If she is already exhibiting this type of behavior you WILL be able to top my story by your wedding day.

ETA: Here is the thread I am talking about: https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/this-will-be-funny-someday-the-saga-of-bridesmaidzilla-ok-maybe-it-is-funny-now/e027a8e36ba0725a.html

As a wise group of women once said....CUT HER LOSE, CAN HER, DROP HER.

RUN FAR AWAY AND DON'T LOOK BACK

OTW for the win!

Yea, I agree that I really need to talk to her. I have always been so easy-going and agreeable throughout our friendship. I guess it just hasn't clicked for her that when it comes to my wedding, I'm going to be focused on doing exactly what me and my fh want, without the decisions being up for committee.

She's driving down to go shopping with me Friday, I'll find a way to talk to her again. At this point, if she really wants to be in the wedding, that's fine. But it's going to have to be to support me, not overpower me.

Thankfully, my bestfriend got an internship here for next semester, so she's moving back. She's very assertive and diplomatic, so I know she'll help put my bridesmaidzilla in her place.

I agree with all the ladies and especially regarding BRIDAL BALLS. You still have several months to go and do you really want to deal with here attitude for the months you have remaining leading up to your big day. The planning process is supposed to be fun and not full of drama.

I would give her to boot and speak to her BEFORE she drives down on Friday.

Oh dear Mrs Darkthal! Yours sounds like a nightmare!

I guess I should better explain my bmz (bridesmaidzilla), she's younger than all of us. I'm 22, bff is 22, and future sil is 24; bmz is 20 and the "party girl" of the group. She's very into drinking and going out, etc. I have never been that girl though, I don't drink and clubs make me feel claustrophobic.

A lot of our friendship has to do with our similar childhoods (both of our mothers walked out and we were raised by our fathers). She's been a great friend throughout the years, but since she moved upstate, she's fallen into this massive heavy-drinking phase that has us all a little concerned. She's always been pretty self-centered (only child) but we've always accepted that as one of her little quirks (she's also freaking hilarious about it). Anyways, I do value our friendship, but she's not exactly the type of person that would even enjoy being a bridesmaid. She just doesn't want to be "left out"...

I know for a fact that she is not going to help with anything and that she will complain anytime she has to do something with or for me. I also can see her calling me a bridezilla many, many times in the future when I try to push for things to be my way (why shouldn't they be? My wedding, which is being paid for solely by me and fh). Ughhhhh

Isn't there some type of honorary title that is above guest, but not as demanding as bridesmaid?? I need something I don't care about to put her in charge of so that she feels included. Any ideas?

Then suggest a different job for her..................

I have a friend that had her wedding party and then had a "personal attendant" she did not stand up with the other girls but did all the stuff that needed done. Basically spent the whole day with the bride, attended everything, helped where she wanted, but was able to wear what she wanted and her responsibilities stopped after the Ido's so she was able to go party.

Nay, the Friday thing isn't wedding related at all. She wants to go clothes shopping for something she has coming up and invited me to come along. I was thinking it might help to bring up my concerns after a fun filled day that's all about her?

She only lives an hour north.

Yes definitely kick her out. It's unnecessary for her to act like that. Beg to be a bridesmaid and then be a bitch about it. Nope, she would not be in our wedding if that was my best friend.

I would take her out to lunch and have a serious heart to heart with her, If she still acts like a bridesmaidzilla and retaliates I would tell her that you can't have her as a bridesmaid, if she then gets mad and retaliates still I would exclude her from the wedding completely, there's no telling what she might do at the wedding because she is mad.

Im definitely not condoning her behavior in ANY way, but is there a chance she was kidding? Obvi I dont know her, but my closest bestest friends are super.sarcastic with each other. I told my bf when she asked me to be her moh not to go bridezilla. She was my moh 2 years later.

THIS IS MY WEDDING!! MINE! ME!!! IT'S GOING TO BE MY WAY DAMMIT!"

Thats exactly what I would have said. Is she bananas??? Umm I would take her out quick!

I had a bridesmaid bitching about my budget and dresses and a bunch of stuff. I basically sat her down and told her that I needed her to support me and if she can't do that she might have to leave my party. She definitely improved and we are now closer than ever!!