Bridesmaidzilla! Or is it me??

She also doesn't respect my wishes for my wedding, and as the quiet and more reserved one from our group, I've always gotten overpowered by her. My FH's father is recovering from a very bad episode of alcoholism and drug addiction, and we have a few more alcoholics in the bunch, so me and my FH (neither drink) decided to not serve any liquor. We are just providing either champagne or sparkling wine for the toast (it's a lunch wedding anyways...) She fought me on this then said she's going to bring a flask. She also told me she won't wear a dress she hates, etc. But I never even brought this stuff up yet!

While I don't think I'm being a bridezilla, I feel like I'm about to explode and scream "THIS IS MY WEDDING!! MINE! ME!!! IT'S GOING TO BE MY WAY DAMMIT!"

We haven't really done anything with the bridal party yet, minus that one conversation I had with her. I haven't formally asked my girls to be my bridesmaids yet... so how can I politely make her just a guest??

Wow, just wow! She sounds like a real somethin' somethin'. I would tell her to hit the road, because it doesn't seem like she cares about your feelings. Have a serious heart-to-heart with her and if she doesn't straighten up out her!

Wtf?!?!

bitch would be stonewalled and written off the list after all that shit.

don't beg to be a bridesmaid and then TELL me how you're going to BE a bridesmaid!

no no no. done done done.

My best friend is just like that. Things definitely go her way more often because she just has a really strong personality. As soon as I told her she was going to be a bridesmaid, she automatically said "I am NOT wearing a long bridesmaid dress because I will look stumpy". She's about two inches shorter than me and I think maxi's are elongating. I'm thinking of just making her try one to humor me.

"Your presence is requested as a guest to our wedding.

If you cannot act your god damn age, you will be forcibly ejected from OUR day."

You're not being a bridezilla, she is being a downright spoilt bitch.

Non-confrontational method: Leave her out of BM activities, do not take her to sort her dress, do not issue her with a bouquet, if she attempts to stand with the BMs have someone seat her or throw her out.

Confrontational method: Call her out on this spoilt behaviour, make it clear that a friend would be supportive rather than this self centered about your day and enlighten her that you will not be pressured into choosing anyone for your BP that you don't choose yourself.

Life is short, don't put up with the drama.

No way would she be in my wedding.

"After talking to FH about the budget and our bridal party, we've decided we'd really like to stick to our original numbers. I know you really want to be part of our day, but my I've already chosen my BMs" or something. My guess is she'll be extra rude afterwards, so get some bridal balls and prepare yourself!

I would not allow her to talk to me like that. Just tell her you have already chosen your bridesmaids and have bridal balls if she gets nasty. You may loose a friend but if she is a true friend she would understand and not act like this.

Can her ass

DO NOT allow her to be a BM, your headache and heartache will only get bigger, as will her attitude. I hate drama queens with a passion and have selected 3 people (cousin and 2 BFF's from college) to be my bm's. I think they are good choices and will have my back, not me stomping on me every chance they get. Stand your ground and put an end to her tantrum fits.

Sounds like she is a drama queen, you don't need more stress because of her attitude. At the end of the day; it's YOUR DAY and although you will want to accommodate your other 3 bridesmaid, it seems like she can create tension and ruin a friendship, simply explain that due to a small intimate wedding you want to keep it to bare minimum with family members and your best friend. Good luck!

Where do these drama girls come from?!??

No way! Kick her out now! She obviously does not respect you!

Paging OTW with bridal balls encouragement....

Kate! I'm here!!

My dear, Patty. There is a saying that goes around WeddingWire and it's called, BRIDAL BALLS!! Unfortunately, while planning a wedding, we all must grow a set. You need to stand on your own two feet and TELL this crazy bitch, (nicely) she does what you ask (within reason) or you are happy to have her as a guest.

ETA - She may be a friend for years and I understand that. There's history, you've been through a lot together, but to be honest, I don't think she really gives a shit about anyone other than herself. If she's actually TELLING you that on YOUR OWN WEDDING DAY she isn't going to do A, B, C, but is going for X, Y, Z instead, then seriously, you have to ask yourself, what kind of friend is she REALLY? This is your wedding. It's a big day. You've spent more money on this day than any other day (other than maybe buying a house). If she can't control herself for ONE DAY, then what the hell good is she? Think of it this way as well. Your bridal party (cont)

Patty, I think your "friend" has given you a glimpse of what you are in for. If you are up for dealing with the drama, keep her as a BM. Otherwise, explain to her you are going with your original decision and if she cannot support that, I would ease up on giving her the title of "friend."

Please take our advice and kick her out now. I had this happen with 2 of my girls and they caused so much drama I was on the verge of a breakdown. Don't do it to yourself.

Will be planning things for you throughout the wedding. Do you really want them to deal with her as well? She's just one big headache and what you need is to be surrounded by people who love AND support you. She's obviously not willing to support you.

WHEN (not if) you tell her she needs to shape up be prepared for backlash. She WILL call you names, but be the bigger person. Tell her you appreciate your friendship, but like ANY bridesmaid SHOULD know, there are certain expectations of them and if she can't rise up to it. Then she should sit the eff down and shut up.

She is adding too much drama that you don't need. I would nicely take her out of the wedding party.

Thank you OTW :-)