Bridesmaids: Would you dye your hair if the bride asked you to?

If my hair was neon pink, maybe...but otherwise...HELL NO! you knew what color my hair was when you asked me to be a BM!

Fuck no.

The only request I made for BMs was for my daughter not to cut her hair right before the wedding. I made the request BC we both love her hair curly!! But I would never NEVER ask them do some thing that dramatic for one day! I don't see a problem with them changing them self to make them happy. Express who you are!

Nope

WHAT?!? Absolutley.

NOTTTT!

Hell no. Especially if it's my natural color.

Only if I wanted to. I had offered it as a option to the friend who was to be my MOH as a gift if she wanted because she was always complaining she hated her hair color.

maybe that's one reason she bailed. lol but I would have never have told her she had to if she didn't want to.

In the end a person needs to choose if they want to dye their hair or do anything with it.

I wouldn't ask my BM's to change their natural hair color but I did have to have a heart to heart with one of my BM's who wanted to dye her hair purple right before the wedding. I know some won't agree but I think to make a drastic change after someone asks you to be in their wedding is a bit selfish. Especially if it's not something you normally do. If you always have your hair random colors then your friend can pretty much expect that. But if your hair is normally black all the time and you choose to dye your hair some bright color around my wedding I'm going to think you are being shady lol. Like I didn't even get my hair around her wedding because I wanted to make sure that my hair would be in a nice versatile style around the time of her wedding.

HELL to the no! My bridesmaids are my friends, not my photo props! If one showed up the day of my wedding with a neon green mohawk I wouldn't care!

No

I'm sorry. I would care. I wouldn't ask someone to change their natural hair color but dang you couldn't wait a day to get your neon green and shave it. I would be upset. I'm not going to lie.

I mean I think it would be okay if she is only asking when it comes to unnatural colors. I personally would ask for a natural hair color especially if they dyed it after I already asked them to be a BM. One of my best friends loves to dye her hair in all sorts of colors but she has already let me know that for my wedding her hair will be a natural hair color and not purple or green. I did not ask her to do that but she understands (as a previous bride) that these things are important. I guess what I am trying to say is that natural hair colors are perfectly fine and the BM should be the one to come forward first to say that they will change their hair, not the bride demanding it.

No way. I can’t imagine what mine would say. They might check me for fever. Granted their my daughters and know I’ve never made any hair rules other than keep it clean LOL

Im currently going through this situation where the bride is demanding i color my hair either brown or black. I cant have navy blue hair because it will "pop too much in HER photos" but yet a bridesmaid with bright orange/red dyed hair doesnt have too. Im honestly conflicted on what to do 😔

I dyed my hair on request for the last wedding I was in. I had dyed dark red hair, and the bridesmaid's dress was pale pink. The bride, my best friend, asked/suggested that I dye my hair because the dress clashed badly with my hair. I thought it was a very bridezilla request, but she did have a point. I dyed it brown for the day, that she payed for. The pictures turned out lovely, and I didn't want to look bad at my best friends' wedding. I don't regret doing it.

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I'm surprised she doesn't like navy blue but is okay with bright orange, that seems strange to me.

Never. That is grounds to back out of the wedding party. The bride is seriously overstepping boundaries by even thinking about asking anyone to alter their appearance so that she will get more Facebook likes for her pictures.

I am a BM for my friends wedding and I was asked to have more natural hair because my bright hair would stand out in the photos now I have had bright colours for years so nothing new. After I said that this is who I am and your asking me to change who I am, I was told I was making a huge deal and that it was there day and I need to take their feelings into account, now I’m not sure I even want to do this. I understand that it’s their day and they eat everything to be perfect but it’s getting to much to fit in to the constructs I get it but how far do I go to keep my friend happy for one day? And be made to feel like I’m not good enough the way I am?

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You'll get more replies if you start your own thread rather than bumping an old one, but to answer your question, it's a bridezilla request and in no way should you entertain it for her sake. If she insists, I'd step down.