Bridesmaids Question

I think it's up to you! I'm kinda in the same boat (had lots of guy friends growing up, but not many female friends). I'm planning on asking my BF and sister. We will have uneven sides, but that's also more common than it use to be. Quality over quantity

I'm sorry to hear that it didn't bring you guys closer together! I hope your day is wonderful though!

It's good that you are thinking about it, but I would wait before making a decision. You may find yourself making a new friend or two in the next year. You may also have some regrets if you pick them too early. Some friendships/relationships change over the years.

Don't reach for people. If you can't think of several friends you'd want to ask then just ask the girls you are positive about. You can have as many or as little as you want.

This is completely up to you! I have my sister, 2 soon to be SIL's, best friend/ roommate from college, other really good friend from college, oldest friend that I've known my entire life, and best friend from high school. Love all of these women and couldn't imagine not having them by my side but how many people my FH has also played a role in this number. We were able to find equal numbers for both sides, thankfully. I wouldn't choose them because you're "expected" to. It's a nice gesture though!

I went with the friends I knew I could rely on. I took a lot into consideration (especially with me not being from NJ and most of my people having to travel. I considered, who would realistically travel (if necessary), who could afford to purchase a $200 dress (not that they will be that much but I wanted to set a margin), who would truly be there to support me and not be a Debbie downer. And ultimately who I wanted to share this experience with. I made a very close friend out here in NJ when I moved (she happens to be my boss lol) she is my matron of honor. Another close friend in California I asked to be my Maid of Honor. My bestie (sister) I asked to be a bridesmaid (this was after a discussion with her and she said she could be as involved as the others and didn't want to fail at MOH duties) and i asked FH's sister to be a bridesmaid. She was my first friend out here and took me to all of her events so I had someone to hang out with.
I would definitely say ask your cousin...especially if y'all are the only girls. Start having a conversation with some of the girlfriends that you have to determine who might be a good fit. Go with your gut. And you don't have to have a huge bridal party. I was initially planning on having 2 ladies...lol

Pick people who aren't just part of your past- pick people who will be a part of your future, too.

One of the best pieces of advice I ever heard about choosing your wedding party was to keep in mind that these people will be the ones who have to help you make tough marital decisions and make it through tough fights. They also have to be people who will fight for your marriage for you. You want it to be people you are close enough to that you would call them for those things. You can't always go to your family because they will always choose your side. I thought it was great advice honestly.

I get it! I think my FH had a harder time choosing his but it really all depends on you and who is important to you right now. For me it was the people who have supported me and my relationship with my FH. So I have my little sister (mini MOH), My cousin/best friend (we grew up like sisters - she is my MOH) , my other cousin (Matron of Honor), my friend that I've only known for a couple of years but we have bonded over some really great things is a bridesmaid and so is one of my friends that i have had since junior high..

My bridesmaids are going to be my middle sister, and my two FSILS. I love them all dearly and I wouldn't of felt right not asking them to be involved.