Bridesmaids Question

I think that's entirely up to you. I wouldn't ask someone that I wasn't close to just to meet a certain number. If you have one really close person that you want to involve, just have one person. Keep in mind that you don't have to limit your attendants to women.

View Quoted Comment I do have a guy friend who very much wants to be a “brides-man” so I am not opposed!

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That sounds like a great idea!

You can have as many, or as little, people in your bridal party as you'd like. Many brides opt to have one bridesmaid or none at all these days.

Make it easy on yourself and have your best friend and stepsister as BMs. The way I see it, if there’s that much struggle and questioning to select a person, then they’re a no. Select who YOU want and not simply who you think your family wants.

If your wedding date is Nov. 2021 you should wait until next August to start thinking about this. Your friend situation can change and it's highly recommended to not ask the bridal party until you are close to a year away from the wedding.

I don't have any cousins other than by marriage, and even those are a bit older than me and we're not close at all. Regardless, I'd choose bridesmaids by what makes you happy, not your family. We're having small wedding parties - I'm having my best friend from college, another close friend from college who's the reason I met and have the group of friends I normally hang out with, and FH's sister.

View Quoted Comment I was hoping to have an even number as FH lol he has like 4 guys he wants, but that’s proving to be more difficult than I thought.

I chose my best friend and then my siblings. I will have my two brothers and my sister on my side. Men as bridesmaids is odd but my brothers are my best friends so I felt they needed a more important role other than usher

I chose my cousin too. We arent that close, nor do we really hangout, but we grew up together and I wanted her to be apart of my big day. I also asked my FH cousin to be a bridesmaid, i actually see her more often than my own cousins but we dont hangout that much because she lives about 2 hours away. But I'm glad I picked who I did!

I picked my cousin to be a bridesmaid, but we are fairly close. Although right now I am regretting that decision, she is causing a lot of unnecessary drama. But oh well. My other 2 girls in my bridal party are my college roommate who is my MOH and my other friend from college.

Choose who you want there with you rather than who you think is best for the job and most available

My bridal party is made up of my sister (MOH), my sister in law (brothers wife), my future sister in law (FH sister), and 2 friends. One friend is the only one I’ve stayed closed with after high school, and the other is someone who is a newer friend, but that I’ve become extremely close with. I will also say that this is my second marriage, and I don’t speak to 2 of the girls that were in my first wedding anymore... I said all that to say this: I like even numbers on both sides and if that’s also a priority for you, choose people that will be there for a while, even if you aren’t necessarily that close. A cousin is a good option because you will always be family.

Since we chose to do a family-only ceremony, our bridal party was chosen by best friends who wouldn't be there otherwise. My MOH is my best friend and my bridesdude was a guy who was like a big brother to me.

I know both of these people will be in my lives for ever, and if not still mean the world to me. I was so proud they were by my side ^_^

I would think about it now, but don't ask until November/December 2020, so more than a year from now. Friendships will change.

You have time to figure this all out. you may meet a new friend who you grow super close with between and the wedding so don't stress about it just yet! don't feel pressure to have a large bridal party. just choose the ones who you know will want to share this special day with you. even if your FH has a a lot of more groomsmen than you have bridesmaids that's totally fine!

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I agree, I definitely don't plan on asking anyone for a while!

I am the same. I dont have many female friends.
I ended up asking my brothers wife, my fh sister, my cousin, fh best girlfriend who ive become close with, and then one friend of mine.
Id say make a list of girls that you would like to have standing next to you and then go from there

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Don't strive for an even number. Choosing people who aren't all that important to you to get up to a certain number is a recipe for drama. Just go with the people who are important to you, even if that's one or even none.

I chose people I had been friends with for years. They've supported me through so many ups and downs and I want to honor them!