Bridesmaids not buying dress

Only 1 out of 5 of my BMs have bought their dresses. Something tells me that someone won't be able to get theirs on time and then buy a different blue dress that doesn't match exactly and i will be called a bridezilla for saying i'm sorry you can't wear that.

We are date twins the very same thing just happened to me. Two of my bridesmaids (the two that happen to be my sisters) still hadn't ordered their dress. I was beginning to panic. A lot of my BM's got together one night to discuss my bridal shower, and the next day, my sisters ordered their dresses! I don't know what was said, but it sounds like maybe you should ask your other girls to put a bug in their ear. It's the only thing that worked for me! Good luck

So glad I only have an MOH.

Omg same here! Only two of my BM have gotten their dress. When I popped the BM question, I prepared a BM Guide including their dress, the number, and its price. We are 4 months away as well and I text them monthly to remind them with the disclaimer that there will be no back up dress style if you don't get your dress. They got all of their info in AUG well in advance. I mean they aren't helping with anything not even the stuffing of a favor box the least they could do is get their dresses in a timely manner.

I have 4 girls, 2 bigger and 2 smaller, their dress is the Versa from David's. They told us it would take 14 weeks to get here. The 2 bigger sizes (16&22) got here early but the other two dresses (size 6) took the ENTIRE 14 weeks. I think there are a lot of variations. Are you doing mix and match from a site they can have quicker shipping? When I found out how long it would take to get I called all my girls and let them know the expected turn around time that David's gave me and they all ordered within that next week. If you are concerned, can you set a deadline for them? That would stress me out. Best of Luck.

Half of my BMs waited until the deadline date to order. It's a good thing they all ordered within the deadline because some of the dresses have come in too small. Now we have time to exchange sizes and still have time for alterations!

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Ask the store for s deadline. If it seems early it's just so there's enough time to fix any problems!

I would give them a deadline and tell them that the dresses can;t be order after a certain time.

I agree with @jewles322 that it's either money issues or they don't want to be in your wedding. Either way they should just tell you the truth. One of my bridesmaids still hasn't purchased her dress yet. I'm not stressing about it anymore. If she has her dress on the day of the wedding, great, if not she can't be in the wedding. Don't let this ruin your day.

I think mine finally chose a dress last night. Now they need to go get measured. I told them to do it when it's convenient and have the shop call me so I can pay for them. I'd love to go with, but I doubt schedules will work out. I think they're going to try to coordinate that anyway. SMH I just want the dresses ordered. Well try to hang out some other time.

I agree with others about a deadline, although with places like DB they aren't always true to their timeline. They told me to make the end of February the cutoff date, and four of my BMs got their dresses in within 2-3 weeks of ordering them. One of mine has hers picked but is waiting to order due to financial constraints, and the other is going to pick one tomorrow!

I gave them a deadline of the end of March, so it's worked out just fine! As for gentle reminders, I tried to always do it politely. For example, the one who is ordering tomorrow was the last one to pick hers out. I hand't heard from her, so I sent her a text and let her know to make sure that when she scheduled her appointment she connected it to my name so she got $20 off her dress- that was the only subtle reminder she needed! She booked her appt. that night! But some people don't respond well to subtle hints It is stressful, though, so a deadline I think is your best bet! Maybe by the end of this month?

I did give the 2 a subtle reminder. One said she was planning on next weekend and the other said she would go yesterday which didn't happen. I feel like I'm gonna have to give another reminder. They are from DB and the other dresses came in quick but it's still stressful looking after them to see if they've gotten their dresses.

I would ask them why. One of mine was holding up the whole order. She couldn't afford the deposit to order so I paid it for her. I really think that they should get the dress pretty soon if you are in July. The store told me in February that dresses need to be order NOW.

I ordered mine all together but we all live in south fl.. Maybe have a serious conversation with them about how it possibly could be late or too close and then it cannot be fixed

Ugh I am going through the same thing. I have 4 BMs and 1 MOH; when I first asked them to be in my BP we discussed budget and we agreed on 150.00. I found some dresses that I think look good on everyone's body type, and that are under the budget (114.00) So I thought I did great by staying within budget and finding and even cheaper dress. My MOH is on top of it and went right away; she has even started messaging the other girls to give them an extra push. They can choose from 4 dresses so I don't care if they don't match. I am not picky; they can wear their hair any way they would like, they can wear any shoes, as long as they show up, I'm happy. I keep reminding them and asking them; and only 2 respond, the others completely ignore me. SUPER FRUSTRATING.

P.S. Just needed to rant to someone other than poor FH.

Set a boundary and say they must be ordered by a set date. I have 8 bridesmaids (should have only had 5) and my wedding is in another state. With that said 3, of the 8 girls live in other states as well. I am getting married this September and all of the dresses are finally ordered. I gave them a limit and told them to order them no later than February. Most of them waited till the last day to order them and were really stressing me out, but It all got done. They all have their shoes already too. My MOH was sending out reminders as well but has had difficulty getting responses from everyone. I don't understand why people don't just respond or an e-mail or a text, at least saying "got it". It's so rude.

I agree you have to give them a date where it must be ordered by. I FINALLY got my last BM to order here today!

Niki made a really good point that some people might not realize how long it takes bridesmaid dresses to come in if they haven't been involved in many weddings before. They might be thinking that it's like ordering any other clothing online and they can wait until the last minute. If you haven't already, just tell them clearly "the dresses will take X weeks/months from the time they are ordered until they are here and you need at least X weeks for alterations, so you will need to order you dress by XX" It's probably also worth padding your dates for a little bit more wiggle room

My bridesmaids' dresses took 4 months to come in. Luckily for me they all ordered it on the same day and I didn't have to worry about it. One hasn't picked hers up yet, but I'm not going to let that upset me. She knows its in and she knows she needs alterations.

In your situation, this is what I would do. I would get the latest possible order date from your bridal shop, based on whoever the designer is, and then tell your bridesmaids they have to order by that date. I might even change the deadline and tell them 2 weeks earlier than that, to allow a cushion. If they don't order the dress, they can come to the wedding as guests.

Update:

So my MOH just got her dress ordered today so now I'm down to 1 still needing a dress and she plans on going next weekend!

I took all of my bridesmaids to the dress shop with me and had them try on a few different styles. When I chose a style I assigned their colors and they all ordered them that same day.