Bridesmaids Decisions

View Quoted Comment Thank you love !

No problem! Us 2020’s must stick together!

View Quoted Comment Yes we do!!

View Quoted Comment Ask on here about David's, how long it took for their BM dresses to come in. The last 3 of 6 times I have been MOH or BM, David's told us, at least five months! We ordered at 3-4 months, because several of us know from being with them before, they o erestimate. All three times, mine and all of the others arrived 2-5 weeks from order date. The ones earliest, longer. All of us ordering g 3 months that out, no rush fee, 2-3 weeks. They k ow that every bride has a few years, a big one, all the dresses arrive the day before the wedding. And they prey on it. You may want to line up dressmakers or seamstresses nearby , as David's alterations are quite variable in price, and quality. Some standard hemming is quite inexpensive and fair. But other minor alterations they sometimes charge twice what a seamstress in a low iverheap shop will. But good luck with all of them . It sounds like you are being more sensitive about things than many, and most important is not losing the friendships.

View Quoted Comment Alrighty Judith. Thanks.

Wait the 5th bridesmaid just had a baby?? That would explain everything!
If it’s not the one that just had a baby I agree with asking her if she wants to be part of the wedding, giving her time to respond and then taking the actions you need to. It would hurt my feelings incredibly if a friend was ignoring me. That’s the biggest issue here, for some reason she’s not responding to you about anything. You have absolutely every right to be hurt and upset.
I’d call and leave a message if she doesn’t answer, definitely worth an actual conversation and not a texting one.
Good luck! I hope you can figure your relationship with her out, whether she chooses to be in the wedding or not.

View Quoted Comment No. Another bridesmaid.

View Quoted Comment Yeah the ignoring part is very much bothering me. Because from our recent interactions I haven’t done anything. she’s been fine. I’ve been grieving the death of my grandmother. But I wanted to make sure she was okay and that we kept in contact. So the ignoring is getting at me.

View Quoted Comment That makes it even harder that you are going through a loss and she’s not there for you.
We can only guess at her reasoning behind the behavior, id give her a chance and then really consider distancing yourself as a friend. Friends do not get to ignore you for months and think everything is ok.

I think you took some flak for your post but i feel like what you’re really saying is you’re hurt by her behavior, not that you NEED to have 5 bridesmaids so this girl is interchangeable. Looks like you’re losing a friend and you don’t know why, and that sucks. Good luck girl!

It sounds like she doesn't want to be a part of your day if she isn't responding back to you. It doesn't sound like a good friend.

View Quoted Comment You said everything I wanted to say - and more!

Call or text to see if you get a response... if not, move on!

View Quoted Comment That seems to be the majority of what everyone is saying.

View Quoted Comment Yeah that’s the hurtful part. But it’s okay.

View Quoted Comment I am receiving flak from a few people. Majority of like you either understand or think I’m an evil person. But hey.

View Quoted Comment I respect your standpoint and opinion even though I don’t agree with you.

View Quoted Comment I don’t see anyone here saying or implying that you’re evil. Some of us have suggested that perhaps interchangeably rotating women into your #5 spot, doesn’t really suggest that you’re that close to them, if you’re moving onto the third selection for that spot at this point.

Maybe look at it from their perspective... I would feel quite strange if I was asked to be a third tier bridesmaid.

Hey Taylor,

I'm really sorry to hear about your troubles. Maybe these girls are going through something you don't know about, and maybe they simply can't afford or do not wish to be in the wedding, but they don't want to come out and tell you. I wish our friends would be forthcoming with us. You didn't choose them as bridesmaids for no reason. However, I don't think it's entirely necessary to replace this new bridesmaid. Do you absolutely need to have 5? It's a blessing that you've got 4 ladies on your side. And it would make me feel strange if I had to force someone to be involved on my special day. It's either they can't or can. It should all be natural. You know what I mean? I would honestly just stop contacting this 5th bridesmaid and move on with your wedding planning. I don't know if I'm reaching with this, but maybe the two "5th" bridesmaids talk? And perhaps since the first one dropped out and the other one hasn't responded in months.. maybe the replacement feels like she was an afterthought or maybe she realizes she was a replacement? And perhaps that is why she's not really being receptive? I don't know how close your bridesmaids are to each other. But no matter, everything is done now. And all you can do is hold your head high and try to think about how beautiful your wedding is going to be. Sometimes, we jump the gun and do things that may backfire or not work in our favor. However, we must still move on, I don't want you to be in a slump, month twin!!! LOL! I only have 3 bridesmaids and I originally was supposed to have like 5. Some things just don't work out. But I'm happy that my middle sis and my 2 FSILS will stand up for me! I would let the last 5th bridesmaid cool off and you should continue with your wedding planning. Maybe she'll come around, maybe she'll won't. Either way, your wedding will be beautiful

View Quoted Comment I agree with this... I was once asked to be a second tier bridesmaid (without prior knowledge that I was second tier) and I felt very second rate the whole time...received a T-shirt a size too big that was originally for the other girl, didn’t have any input on planning the shower or Bach because the other girls had already formed ideas...ended up leaving that wedding reception early as I felt like the rest of the BP cliqued up and left me out. Of course that bride is now the friend who caused a big to-do over me not asking her to be a bridesmaid, and I’ve ended up deciding not to invite her to my wedding at all

View Quoted Comment Thank you month twin. None of my bridesmaid no each other. And your right I’m not super close with everyone. I live in an area that my fiancé has lived in all his life and has tons of friends. Felt the need to live up to that. Plus all ten of the wedding party has been more than happy and overjoyed and accepted no problems. Except for this one. I’m not trying to make anyone feel like an after thought. All of these girls where on my list. But I can’t afford to have a twenty person wedding party. Women in these comments make it seems like it’s impossible or that how dare I consider this option. I’m not also trying to spare my emotions towards it but also trying to spare a groomsman who was really happy and honored to be the wedding to tell him he can’t be in our wedding party anymore. And then choosing which one can’t is also a harsh thing to do. There’s more to this than me having someone else step in.