Bridesmaid won’t respond...

View Quoted Comment When I “fired” her as you all say, and ask someone else to do it.

Good lord, OGK is NOT attacking you.

If your friend doesn't get back to you, you just have one less bridesmaid. It's really that simple.

I have come to a conclusion. If my current bridesmaids miraculously responds and. Gives me her information by Friday, she will be a bridesmaid and my other friend will be an honorary bridesmaid. If she doesn’t respond by Friday, my other friend will be the bridesmaid and she will be an honorary bridesmaid. Thank you to everyone who has been helpful and not judge-mental!

View Quoted Comment Wtf is an honorary bridesmaid...?

Its a "you werent good enough to be a bridesmaid but come shower me with attention" type title. lol Nah, jk its not a real thing.

View Quoted Comment Seems like a slap in the face if anything.

Soo... is the situation your friend is going through more important to her than your wedding? Yup... honestly, you seem more concerned about your wedding and even sides, than whatever situation she’s going through....

“ghosting” isn’t always when you’re not wanting to confront someone... it’s not an immature thing. Sometimes people need to withdraw or remove themselves from situations to focus on themselves...

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Yea that's not a good conclusion to come to, because an honorary bridesmaid is not a thing. It is, however, a slap in the face, as @magnolia & @ogk have mentioned. Good luck with your friendships. You'll need it.

View Quoted Comment If you actually read all the comments, I said that her mental health was more important. I want her to be as stress free as possible, and I’ve told her that. All I need are some measurements and a dress she likes. That’s all.

Thank you ❤️

View Quoted Comment And that's not asking too much. If she would at least respond then this would be a non issue. I have to agree that she might be ghosting you or simply can't say no due to my stress level at those time of my life.

LMAO at "not being helpful" simply because we're not automatically validating OP's bad idea to replace a good friend in her wedding party.

Lol, I don't agree at all with "replacing" her with the backup bridesmaid. I mean, it's your call, but I see a LOT of hurt feelings from your friend. If she's going through a lot, I get you've been supportive, but replacing her is anything but.

"Honorary" bridesmaid isn't a thing, either, and I'd find that incredibly rude myself. Maybe your friend is okay with being a backup, but that still doesn't make it right.

And even though you keep saying "I know she won't answer my phone calls" it's still beneficial to try and leave a voicemail. Sometimes texts are super impersonal and she can't get the tone from you through that, but you can emphasize how understanding you are with a voicemail.

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No one was mean, though.

They're giving you their honest opinions and you disagree with them, and then they're backing up their claims.

Don't know how that isn't being helpful.

View Quoted Comment I’m confused as to why you’re saying honorary bridesmaids aren’t a thing. I’ve seen them at many weddings before.

I think you've gotten enough helpful info and maybe you should just do your best to tell her you support her and ask her to be truthful about of she prefers to not be in the wedding. Maybe a lunch invite to discuss rather than texting.

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I read them. You gloss over showing concern for her. You won’t call her, you said ehh you’ll email her, and ask about the dress, or stepping down. That doesn’t show concern for your friend, that doesn’t show you care about her as a friend. She’s obviously going through something. Your wedding isn’t her priority right now.


Ok... I was a backup bridesmaid... I found out the week of the wedding. It was a huge slap in the face. My then best friend asked someone that was hardly ever around, and known to flake out to be MOH. When the original MOH flaked Out, I was asked to step in. It was insulting, and damaging to our friendship. But hey, firing and replacing is totally cool because it’s “your day”. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤯🤯

View Quoted Comment Oh I didn’t know you had actually read my text messages with her! You say I’m flossing over, but you have absolutely no idea all the things I’ve said to her. I’m not going to put our full conversations on the internet.

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Can you explain what an honorary bridesmaid is?

I can see MAYBE that title if the honorary bridesmaid is under 15 years old.

I wouldn't bother her anymore if you have attempted multiple times to contact her. If she doesn't give you the sizing information by your deadline, I'd say just do what you feel is right. I don't have many friends and I opted out and I won't be having any bridesmaids other than my Maid of Honor. I hope it all works out for the best!