Bridesmaid won’t respond...

Did you call her?

View Quoted Comment No, and I know how she is. If she won’t answer my texts, she definitely won’t answer my call. I get the feeling that she maybe doesn’t want to be in it. That would be totally fine, and I’ve told her this, I just don’t want to wait any longer to order the dresses.

Have you tried talking with her about what she's going through? Have you talked about life in general and nothing wedding related?

View Quoted Comment Oh definitely. I’ve told her multiple times that if she’s too stressed and she doesn’t think she can do it, that it would be totally okay and I would understand

You should try calling her and if she doesn't answer send her an email. Let her know that you know she is going through a tough time, you are perfectly okay with paying for her dress, but if she wants to stay in the wedding then she needs to respond to you by a set date or you won't be able to get her dress ordered in time for her to be in the wedding. My SIL went through the same thing with one her bridesmaids. No one should ever remove anyone from their bridal party unless there crazy circumstances, but your bridesmaid doesn't get a dress ordered then she won't have anything to wear standing next to you. Just be compassionate, but stand your ground with your request.

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Exactly this.

View Quoted Comment I know she won’t answer my calls and I don’t have an email address for her. I have told her that I need the information by Friday, so I hope she gets back to me. I have a backup bridesmaid just in case she falls through.

View Quoted Comment Do not replace a bridesmaid. People and friendships aren't interchangeable.

Ummm no to the back up bridesmaid. Its so rude and its too close to your wedding. The sides don't have to be even. How crappy would it feel to be replaced or to be the replacement that wasnt good enough for the first round.

View Quoted Comment I wouldn't replace her with anyone. If she needs to get her dress ordered soon in order to be in the wedding then does this other person already and is like waiting on the sidelines to jump in and order her dress real quick?

View Quoted Comment Well, what am I supposed to do if she won’t send me her measurements and the dress she wants? I’m trying to make it as easy on her as possible but it’s making me even more stressed.

View Quoted Comment Yes. She is. I’ve explained the situation to her and she completely understands. She is already a part of my day, just not a bridesmaid.

View Quoted Comment I understand that. But if she can’t do the smallest thing and send me her measurements what else’s am I supposed to do?

You just dont have that one bridesmaid. THE SIDES DONT HAVE TO BE EVEN. You do nothing but support your friend.

View Quoted Comment Move on with wedding planning?

View Quoted Comment Almost everything else is taken care of. This is one of the last things, and frankly, quite simple.

Attacking? lol nah, just trying to get you to read that sentence that you obviously overlooked the first time i wrote it.

Not at all dear. Good Luck!

View Quoted Comment Then just relax and care for your friend who is obviously struggling.

View Quoted Comment I have been doing that for her. But I need these dresses ordered by Friday. And if she can’t get me her information what am I supposed to do? Just let her be up there in whatever? No.