Bridesmaid wont get dress

Went on sale yesterday. She then ignored my message, but went to comment on my status talking about if all the girls want to pay to get their hair done or not.

Am I being too pushy??

I really wanna go all bridezilla on her but I just don't know what to do.

Definitely not being too pushy especially if they don't carry them for long. Since it just went on sale, if you can afford to go buy it you should. And not tell her. Then when she goes to buy it and its gone. You can be like well im glad I planned ahead.

If you really want her in the wedding, and this is bothering you. I would kidnap her and go to the store with her. If she doesn't have the money, buy it for her, right in front of her.

That may not work with everyone, but from experience sometimes you really have to take things into your own hands. However I wouldn't do it without her knowledge. Because she might surprise you and buy it right under your nose! =P

I am to the point that I am tempted just to tell her mom. (Her mom helped raise me) . I know that her mom will yell at her for me. But I really don't want to be like a 16 year old tattle-tale brat. I would totally kidnap her, but she lives 6 hours from me and the passes are snowy and my car does not like snow. Plus the dresses are all ordered online because they are semi club dresses.

http://www.debshops.com/flutter-sleeve-club-dress-with-solid-stone-detail-and-ruched-sides/1000044418.html?q=flutter

I would say if you really really want her as a bridesmaid then text her and tell how much you want her to be in your bridal party so you're gonna go ahead and buy it for her because you don't want her to miss out. be aware you may end up not getting paid back, but if it means that much for her to be a bridesmaid then you should probably be okay with that since they were only $50. If it is not as important to you then if the dress goes out of stock, then she's not in your bridal party. Obviously if you just keep asking her you're not gonna get a straight answer. So you may just be better off telling her instead of asking.

Well, the only other thing to do is just text her and say you are ordering it for her. If they are on sale and she won't purchase it this second.. well you are doing her a favor!Peace of mind is all you need!

(Well, not the only thing, but it's what I would do.)

Buy it, text her a picture, and say you owe me $50. I accept payments.

I'd buy the damn dress before it's gone and just give it to her when she gets her act together, or save it in case you have to kick it her out and put it on another girl

Haha Kristie I love that!

I would offer her a way out! I'd ask her whether or not being in the bridal party is something she wants or if she preferred to attend as a guest instead. I did this recently to one of my BM's that was stressing me out with no going for the dress selection. I chose the dress for them and told HER that she can opt out. By end of the week she was trying on the darn dress.

Not to make you feel bad but my Mom always told me: actions speak louder than words. Stop bringing it up to her. She knows she's supposed to get the dress. If she fails that's all the proof you need to know exactly how important this is to her and you can plan around her accordingly. Nobody got time for rude BM's.

I wouldn't buy her anything at this point. You tell her she's welcome to come as a guest. You've asked her repeatedly to get a dress and she simply won't do it (regardless of what she spent her money on--that's her perogative). No ma'am.

Just offering another perspective - is she comfortable wearing that dress? I wouldn't be, even in my early 20s.

if she has already said that she is, i'd just buy it for her and return it if she changes her mind about being in your wedding

I wouldn't buy it for her. If she doesn't want to fork up the money for it, she can attend as a guest.

Stop asking her; the more you ask the more she will resist. Let it go.

I've worked at David's Bridal and I know the pure hell that it can be to get a dress that's gone to clearance/discontinued. I've helped bridal parties that half of the BM purchased the dress and would have to purchase a brand new dress choice so everyone can be in the same new dress.

Get it taken care of ASAP or kindly let her know that if she doesn't have the proper attire within x amount of time, she can't be in the party.

I wouldn't buy it for her. Obviously, it's not a priority for her. I'd give her the option to attend as a guest. You don't need that kind of drama.

If she doesn't get the dress, then she's not in the wedding. Let that responsibility be on her. I wouldn't buy it for her either because it's not fair to the other girls who paid for their own dress.

"If she doesn't get the dress, then she's not in the wedding. Let that responsibility be on her." <-this

I would call the store and let them know she has a deadline . and tell them if she calls to give her that deadline they can mark it in the calender thats what i did with my girls.

If she cares and respects you enough she will just do it!!

I would call, set up a deadline and let her know it has to be orderd by this date or they wnt be able to order it and she wont be able to participate in the wedding and leave it at that....

the store WILL go along with it i set up a deadline for my girls by the last day in aug and all their dresses were orderd!