Bridesmaid wants to have her birthday party after my wedding

Totally odd and a bit inconsiderate but I would just let it go. Totally not something worth getting upset about

PS I personally don't think you are being a special snowflake.

Seeing as he birthday is two weeks ahead I would be a little peeved about her leaving early to have her bday party. My sister and step dads birthday is two days after my wedding and my grandmas is the day before our wedding. They're celebrating ON their birthdays or the weekend after. I don't see why your bridesmaid chose your day of all days other than she'll have her hair and makeup done.

Due to her birthday being two weeks prior to wedding day......well I continue to read. It should not start before your wedding and reception is complete. Weird

Maybe I'm just old (29-gross) but, I can only think of 10 year olds making sure they still get a birthday party two weeks after their birthday.... she's being a little inconsiderate.. but if it doesn't ruin your actual reception, then let her go and party without someone she considered a close friend..the introvert in me would much rather be In a room with just FH than celebrating a late birthday... don't let it get you worked up! even if my birthday was on the actual day of a close friends wedding, I know I wouldn't be focusing me!

It is odd that she would have it on the same night and even more odd since her birthday will have happened 2 weeks prior. If she is inviting people who will be at the wedding it is rude because she is asking them to leave early and it was rude for her to have her party start at 7 when your reception is over at 7:30. Not much you can do about it but I would be giving her side eye.

Is she taking others away from your reception? I feel that's super inconsiderate.... its one thing to move the party elsewhere and have fun after the wedding and totally another to plan your own overlapping event, that's just rude. You have to talk and tell her how you feel

I agree with others that this is weird. It would irritate me for sure but it sounds like there isn't much you can do. I honestly wouldn't worry about it. I feel with your wedding just a month away its too late for you to talk about it since she's probably already invited people/planned it. I have a feeling she will be disappointed when her guests show up late to her party because they were enjoying your wedding, and some may not come to her party at all because they are tired from the wedding. Don't know why she would want it on the same day, she will probably lose the attention she is looking for.

It's weird. I would definitely be annoyed and peeved honestly. Why does it need to be on your wedding day, and why is the start time during your reception? I would talk to her.

I wouldn't be upset by this but I wouldn't go to her party. I'd want to spend time with my new husband not a birthday party. She seems rather ridiculous but it's not anything to get upset over.

If the reception ends at 7:30 it will be pretty much over by 7. Plus she doesn't have to stay till the very end. You can't control what she focuses on or thinks about.

While I think it's odd that she would want her party on the same day,

This is nothing to even worry about.

@OP, I would be annoyed and confused since her birthday is 2 weeks before. I guess she figured she could kill two birds with one stone and spend less money on her appearance.

Umm her bday is two freakin weeks before?! You absolutely have a right to be annoyed. Why is she being such a selfish twat? Idc if it's after the reception or not. You still have after parties and such after a reception. So strange that she chose your wedding day... ETA: you get how many bdays? And hopefully only one wedding! I wasted my 30th bday at FHs friends lame wedding and I didnt once complain...she needs to suck it up

My feelings would be hurt. I guarantee that most of the people telling you to get over it would be a little upset if they were in your shoes, too. I would definitely talk to her. This isn't about bridesmaid duties or the day being all about you; this is about your friendship.

D does have good point, though, if you have a lot of mutual out-of-town friends.

After my wedding, my friends are free to do whatever they want. So I wouldnt feel as if she were taking away from my special day. However, I would be hurt that she would plan it for the one day she knew I wouldnt be able to attend, especially if it isnt even her actual birthday.

I would have an issue with this only because most of my guests left my wedding at the end totally exhausted from all the dancing! I would want everyone to enjoy the party that we worked so hard on and not leave for another party.

Given that her BD is two weeks before, it doesn't make sense at all.

I too think it's a dick move. It would be a different story if her birthday was your wedding day, but her birthday is two weeks before? She can plan something on her birthday or closer to it. There's no reason for her to have a party right after your wedding.

I don't see an issue with it if your reception ends at 7:30. A lot of people may want to continue into the night (if I was a guest I probably would) and go to her party. If your reception ended at like 10-11 then yeah I could see why you would be upset.

Thank you for your input everyone. I am not going to let this worry me, I just think that it didn't have to be done on the same day. ??

I think it's weird, but I wouldn't let it upset you! You're getting married! I also think it's weird you're not having an after party tho, especially since you'll be done so early.