Bridesmaid want me to buy her dress for her

I would just tell her that you are sorry but she agreed she could pay for the dress and you're not in a position now to pay for everyone's dresses and feel awkward not doing so. Tell her you would like her to still be at the wedding but maybe it's best if it would cause a hardship for her not to be in the wedding, dress, then shoes, hair , make-up etc. It all adds up. I have agreed to pay for my bm dresses but that's just how I am. Not in any better financial state but we are budgeting it into the wedding, also not paying for anything additional for them though

I would tell her if she wanted my foot up her ass then she should keep talking.

she rude

You said it yourself...you didn't ask her to be a part of your bridal party - she just assumed. Sooooo...........set her straight and tell her either she pays for the dress or she will be removed.

then move on.

I wouldn't pay for her dress - but maybe she is thinking $200 was the full budget - shoes, make up/hair, accessories, alterations....

I was a single mom for a long time - paying $160 and then everything else would've been waaaaay too much for me to do.

I would ask her what she thought was included in the $200 budget she agreed upon - then go from there. If she needs to step down then so be it.

@Future Mrs. Williams - I think advising someone to use their tax returns for a bridesmaid dress is horrible advice. Taxes should be used to pay for the day to day living expenses - not a dress/shoes etc...

To everyone else who said "What about a bridal shower/bachelorette party?" Those are not mandatory things for a bridal party to host/pay for - its their choice if they want to do those things. My bridal party is not doing either - so therefore my mom is hosting my shower and I am going without a bach party. Not because they can't afford it but because they are choosing not to host

Don't pay for it!!!! It wouldn't be fair to the other girls and she agreed to $200 max. I would just drop her at this point because if she's being this difficult now, wait till it come to the bachelorette party, hair, make up, etc.

How much were you planning on spending on their gifts? Maybe offer to contribute that amount to her dress in lieu of a gift.

If you talked to her beforehand and she said she could pay $200, but now she is saying that you need to buy the dress? That is just rude. If she can't pay for the dress, how will she pay for anything else? Bachelorette party, shoes, hair, gifts, anything? Does she expect you to pay for all that too? I think she should just step down.

Of course, I am having a similar situation. When I asked my bridesmaids if they wanted to be in the wedding, I told them all that I was planning on picking around a $200 dress (and I reminded them that there are usually alterations), and about how much the bachelorette party would be, etc. I asked them if that was too much, because I didn't want to banrupt anyone (some of my bridesmaids are unemployed, etc), and I can't buy the dresses. They all said yes and agreed to everything without hesitation. Then when we went shopping, one girl in specific (let's call her nancy) wanted a $280 dress...

... So I asked if everyone was ok with that price (because really, I don't care that much about the dress). They all said yes. Then, later Nancy sat down next to me and whispered that she couldn't afford that dress, and I said that was fine, because the other one we were considering was $200, so I would just pick that one. Then she said she couldn't afford that one either. I asked about a our conversation and she said she "didn't remember it". So, we didn't pick a dress that day.

I suggested one on fb that was $188. Later she called me and said that she didn't like the dress and asked me how much she was going to have to spend on the wedding, and went on to say that she had quit her job and was living on loans (she had quit her job prior to be asked to be a bridesmaid). She said she could afford all the things I mentioned at the end of the call. So, I just told my bridesmaids that they need to order their dresses within the next week. We will see if she orders it or steps down.

She invited herself to be a BM? Then she most definitely needs to take on the part and pay.

If she can't afford it she can invite herself to step down. You shouldn't have to pay for her dress with how she is acting.