Bridesmaid want me to buy her dress for her

When you chose the dress did you ask your bridesmaids what their budgets were?

If you did and she agreed at the time then it is her responsibility.

But if you did not I understand why she is frustrated. However, I think it is extremely manipulative for her to say if you want me in the wedding then you will buy it.. Of course you want all the bridesmaids in the wedding but that doesn't mean you could buy all their dresses!

So I personally would not buy it, it could also cause an issue with your other bridesmaids..

I've been a single mom for 4 years and admittedly haven't been in a wedding during that time, but if I had been, I would've assumed I pay for my own dress just like any other attendant. If I were another attendant that had paid for my own dress, I'd have to work to not be hurt that things were this "uneven." Everyone's finances are different, and we all make choices.

Maybe you two could have a heart to heart. Find out what's going on. Maybe it was just a hard week for her, and she really can work it in, maybe she has ongoing major budget issues and really can't afford it. Maybe you two could split it? If she decides to not work this into her budget (assuming it's not a short time frame) maybe she could fill another role in your wedding.

I'm not sure what you mean about telling your grandma to pay for it...really not her responsibility. If you decide that paying for it is worth having her in your wedding, then you should pay for it, in my opinion, not grandma.

@DFG2014.. I talked about the budget with all the BM before we went shopping for them and she agreed with price not to be more than $200..

@Becky... we talked abut going half and she was like no,its your wedding you should pay for it...I didn't pick her for a bridesmaid, she just took it upon herself and made herself one....we are cool friends, but she is taking it to far

If she invited herself and agreed to pay anythingless than $200, I think you need to lay down the law. Being a bridesmaid is expensive. If you did not ask her to be a bridesmaid in the first place she shouldnt be trying to force you to buy her dress.

Since she agreed to the price and you were well below the budget, it is definitely her responsibility. You should not pay and your grandmother should definitely not pay for it.. She knew the price and I think it's awful how she is manipulating you.. I'm sorry you are going through this! That's an awful situation but

I would tell her that you wish you could help and you would like her to be in the wedding, but she knew the price and you can't afford to buy her dress and it also wouldn't be fair to the other girls!

I know you want her in the wedding, but she agreed $200 was her max. The dress is $160. If you choose to pay for it, that's your choice. However, if it were me, I would not.

If she can't afford the cost, it may be best if she steps down. If you pay for her dress and not the other girls I don't feel like the others would feel good about it and obviously if you're iffy about the cost of her dress then you can't afford the rest of the BM dresses

My FH said No..we aint paying for her dress, she pay for it herself or she wouldn't be in the wedding

Good plan. Dont pay. If she cant pay for her dress, wonder what else she cant pay for..., hair makeup, shoes......

I think it's up to her. I have a BM who pulled me aside shortly after I asked her and she sat down and explained to me that money was tight and if need be she would step down. It was at that point we agreed on what I would cover and what she would cover, but the dress and money toward the shower were the two things that she wouldn't let me put any money towards.

Dag...most places allow payments on dresses....so the hardship of $160 is kind of scary, to me...like, what next?

Sounds to me like you did not really take a lot of effort in choosing your BP? If she kind of walked into it herself? And like, you really do not care if she is there, or not?

She really shouldn't have agreed to be in the wedding if she couldn't afford it. The dress is just one of many expenses that will come up. How is she going to pay for the accessories, shoes, hair , makeup etc? What about your bridal shower and bachelorette party? I hope she's not going to ask for that too.Telling you that if you really want her in the wedding you'll pay for her dress is rude.

Tell her to step aside!

Maybe you could compromise with her and do half and half. David's Bridal does have several clearance dresses online for between $29-$49. That's how my girls got their dresses. The clearance dresses are still very beautiful and in good condition, they just go faster so you have to make sure everyone buys them at the same time so the sizes and colors don't run out. Since I found them so cheap, I paid for a couple of my girls' dresses, but now I'm kind of regretting it because I've yet to see the money. Therefore, I'm going to tell them if they don't pay me back soon, the dress will be their bridesmaid gift and they won't get a regular gift because I'm on a tight budget and can't afford everything.

Ask her to be a reader (in whatever dress she already owns) and not be a BM.

The same thing happened to me!!! I ended up buying all of their dresses, b/c once I agreed to one, the others jumped on board & wanted me to pay theirs too!!! I say, if you can afford it, do it. If you can't, then say your sorry, but you still want her to come to the wedding as a guest.

She invited herself in the wedding party and now she wants you to pay for her dress?!?! No way-- it sounds like she's just trying to get a free dress from you!! DO NOT BUY!!

If she saved 20$ a week until the wedding she could pay you back before your special day got here!

I asked my BP about budgets cause I know they have kids/bills/etc, but if they can't afford it I told them to let me know, I wouldn't be mad and they will still be a guest at the wedding.

She has kids which means she is getting taxes bk. Tell her when she receives her income taxes , buy her dress w/ that money! DO NOT BUY!!!!!!!!!!!