Bridesmaid kicked out for looking too good

View Quoted Comment Ooooo I love this article! And you are absolutely right- even standing next to celebrities and models, your eyes still go straight to the bride in every photo!
I also love your statement that not everyone at our weddings are going to think we are the most beautiful people there, and that’s OK! I think there has been so much emphasis placed on looking flawless on your wedding day (thanks social media! 🙄) that brides are losing sight on what is really important, and are making their weddings a competition on who is the prettiest. I think everyone needs to remember that another person‘s light doesn’t dull your own. We can all win!

I'm letting my bridesmaids chose their dress. I chose the color and length. My dress will definitely be the one to stand out, lol.

Like many others, I have never understood the whole, "I must stand out from everyone else!!!" I'm gonna be wearing a fancy white dress (I mean there's a reason you aren't supposed to wear white to a wedding), so I'm pretty sure I will stand out plenty.

I gave some of my bridesmaids a choice on color (I had selected three colors, so I asked their preference. The last bridesmaid I asked got left with a color but she loved it anyway!) Then I had them pick out whichever dress they wanted. Maybe it will look sloppy or off when they're all together, but who cares?!? It is way more important to me that they feel beautiful and they wear what makes them feel that way!

No. I think scheming to make your bridesmaids look ugly or simply kicking them out is an immature and rude move. So what if they look good? You're the bride, you will be the center of attention. If they are a bridesmaid, they are likely a close friend, so they wouldn't purposely upstage you. I'm going to make sure my bridesmaids feel good in their dresses because they are my friends and I want them to be happy being a bridesmaid and not make it a bad experience. I'll get their opinions on my dress before ordering it, and I'll come up with a new design if they hate it.

No way in hell I would try to play them down for me to shine. That's honestly really selfish. It may be my day, but I'm not going to be awful because of it.

My bridesmaids are my close friends and family, who I deeply care about. I would never make them wear something they were uncomfortable in. Or purposely choose awful bridesmaids dresses so they don't outshine me.

Of course not, besides, whether or not they look better than you is so subjective. Some of my culinary school friends I am likely going to ask are thinner than me (thanks, antipsychotics) but that won't stop me from asking them.

What an awful story! This tells me that the only person this bride thinks of, ever, is herself. She seems a self-centered and jealous kind of person and if I were that bridesmaid, I'll pull out of friendship and insist that the bride reimburse for the cost of the gown! I am 71 and soon to be married in the religious ceremony at my church that we couldn't have when we married 37 years ago. It's a simple ceremony and my closest and dearest friend, who is 76, is my MOH. I never even mentioned to her about what she would wear (I'm the "fashionista" of us two, but she is a classy lady and always looks lovely). I knew she'd choose something nice and I was right - she just got her ensemble and showed it to me. It's absolutely gorgeous and looks fabulous on her - a very simple royal/navy blue pant outfit. I laughingly said she'll probably look better than I will that day (I'm wearing a simple cream lace sheath dress). But no matter what, I'd want her or any other attendants if I had them, to look and feel their very best on my special day. I think it's belittling to expect the attendants not to look beautiful. An important aspect of any woman's looks is not always her " skin-deep beauty", but the kind of person she is, how she carries herself, how she reacts with the people around her.

I'm kind of the opposite. I'm not having attendants at my wedding but when I got married to my first husband I picked out dresses that I thought they would all look good in. I was kind of disappointed that two of the three didn't have alterations done to make them look as fabulous as they could have. Everyone knows who the bride is. I certainly wasn't thinking about being upstaged.