Bridesmaid fees??

I have one bridesmaid and I told her I’d get her a dress. She made me pay for her shoes too. I guess all she’s paying for is her own hair and makeup. I’m not having a bridal party or bachelorette

From reading other posts on here and The Knot, the general feeling is that if you are REQUIRING the Bridesmaids to get their hair & make up done professionally or wear specific jewelry, you should pay for those things. I’ve been a BM many times and have paid for my dresses in all but 1 wedding. As for the shower and bachelorette party, IF your bridesmaids offer to throw either of those for you, then they’d pay for those as well. Typically the bride’s family helps pay/throw the shower.

My girls are buying their dresses, and pitching in for the bachelorette. We are doing DIY hair and makeup, they can wear whatever shoes they want, and we are paying for manicures.

They'll be buying their own dress.
I decided I wouldn't pick out a dress over $130.
I dont care what shoes they wear, as long as they are flats.
Hair and makeup. They may do whatever they want. Do it themselves, or go get it done if they want. That's their choice.
They are going to plan the bachlorette and bridal shower, so that's up to them.

They are buying their dress and planning the bachelorette. I’m paying for hair and makeup if they want it done, and my grandmother is hosting the bridal shower.

They will pay for their own dresses.

We chose to pay for everyone's hair, but they can pick the style.

The ones who chose to will pay for their makeup, the others will do their own.

They can wear whatever shoes and accessories they'd like, at their expense.

If they choose to host a shower or bachelorette, that is up to them. I would never expect it.

I paid for their dresses, their paying for their makeup & shoes. I gave them the option to pick whatever shoe as long as it’s flat. My mom is throwing the bridal shower

They are paying for their own dress. They were given the color and length of the dress and were able to pick whichever style they likes. They can wear whatever shoes they want as long as they are silver.

I let them decide if they wanted to do their own hair and makeup or have the hairstylist and MUA do theirs. So they will pay for that if they choose to have it done. I think the general rule of thumb is that if you are requiring them to get it done then the bill falls on you. However, if you let them choose then they can pay the bill.

My mom, FMIL, and MOH (sister), are hosting me a bridal shower. As of now, the three of them are covering the cost and any of the bridesmaids willing to help with making the invites, coming up with games, help set up/decorate, are doing that.

The bridesmaids are hosting a bachelorette party so that will be up to them on what they decide is fair to pay!

Dress- My mom actually bought them all their dress as a surprise. Otherwise, they would have been responsible for buying their own dress. However, I was going to pay for the jr.bridesmaids (since they are underage).

Hair- They are all responsible for their own hair. I did not request a certain hair style (otherwise I would have been required to pay for it), so they are free to do their hair however they want. And it's up to them to use the professional or do their own.

Makeup- Same as hair.

Bachelorette Party- My MOH graciously planned an awesome bachelorette party for me. She was able to get a friend's beach cottage for free, so she only asked the other girls to pitch in for food. I keep trying to offer help, but she won't accept it lol. 3 out of 4 bridesmaids will be attending, and a few friends that aren't in the bridal party.

Bridal Shower- My mom threw me a bridal shower. No one else was asked to pay for anything. 3 out of 4 bridesmaids came, and 1 out of 2 jr.bridesmaids came.

Mine paid for their dresses and the bachelorette.

i paid for hair and make up (not required, but they traveled for the wedding and it felt like the right thing to do). My mom hosted the shower (the girls were involved, they helped decorate and plan, but not the financiers)

Dress - My girls just made their down payments (50%) on their dresses. I am going to cover the other half (its a surprise).

Hair, makeup, and nails - I have put the offer out to anyone who wants to partake but if they choose to they will be paying.

Jewelry - I am going to buy them all earrings and necklaces. I already bought them bracelets as part of their proposals.

Shoes - they can wear whatever style they want in the appropriate color.

Bachelorette Party - we are going to Vegas for a long weekend. Everything is a surprise to me and it sounds like they are covering all of the activities and Air BnB so I have decided I will pay for the food and house booze as well as my airfair because I know this is not a cheap trip.

Shower - Mom and MOH are planning it but mom is well off so I am sure she will be covering all of the costs...FMIL was helping but was recently diagnosed with pancreatic cancer so everyone agreed that she could be as involved as she wanted but not to feel obligated, she's got more important things to worry about.

My girls paid for their own dress. I specified Azazie, long, “dusk” color, and chiffon fabric. They chose the style.

I told them to wear any shoe as long as it was nude in color.

I told them to wear whatever jewelry they wanted as long as it was tasteful.

I gave them the option of having their hair and/or makeup professionally done. I paid for a portion of the ladies who chose to do it.

My bridal party did not host a shower. In my experience this is typically hosted by family or a family friend.

I did not have a traditional bachelorette party. We just went out for brunch. Everyone paid for themselves and one of my girls paid for me.

My girls paid for their dress, shoes, and any jewelry they want to wear. They've also all chipped in on the bridal shower and the bachelorette shower. The shower/party is not something they HAVE to do, but if they offer to throw you one, they are typically the ones who pay. I chipped in on the bridal shower decorations, but they paid for all the rest.

I'm paying for their hair and makeup as part of a pampering thank you day. If you require them to look a certain way (certain hair or makeup style) you should pay for it.

If you leave it up to them to either go to their person or do their own, it's okay to ask them to pay.

Also, bridal gifts are another thing to think about..

My ladies are paying for their dresses, shoes, and optional hair and makeup, and travel to our wedding. I would have liked to cover the hair and makeup. But we have had some unexpected expenses and that was an easy thing to cut.

Mine paid for their own dress (let them choose the style and budget - they were given a color name & store), they paid for their own hair & makeup (was not required), they all split the cost of the bachelorette party and my mom & step mom were the providers of the bridal shower.

Mine paid for the dress, shoes (if they needed them but I just asked for a nude colored shoe), bachelorette (just a night out on the town with no travel necessary), and H&MU if they wanted it. All but 2 of my BM are traveling and one has very little extra money. My Fiance is a pilot so we gave her a few buddy passes so that she could fly out here for free.

My girls are paying for their dresses, accessories they may need (I told them if they already had something at matched go for it), and splitting the cost of my shower.

My MOH has offered to cover dinner and drinks for my bachelorette party.

One bridesmaid also bought her daughter's flower girl dress. I told her anything that was all white was fine by me and to not spend too much.

In turn we will all DIY-ing our hair and makeup the day of the wedding by pooling together our resources. I'm also obviously getting them gifts, including my flower girl's flower crown. And I booked us our hotel room for my bachelorette party.

What all did your Bridesmaids pay for ?????
Dress- They paid for their dress
Hair- I am paying for this
Makeup- I am paying for this
Bachelorette party- They are paying for this
Bridal shower- I am assisting with this

My bridesmaids are paying for their dress, shoes, makeup, we are splitting costs for bachelorette party, and they are splitting costs with my FMIL and step mom for bridal shower.

I am paying for their manicure/pedicures we are getting the day before the wedding.

I want to try to pitch in for their dresses as a surprise for them, but since I have no preference for hair, make-up, jewelry, or shoes they’ll be free to do as they wish, be it professional or DIY, wearing shoes/jewelry they have or buying new ones. As long as they’re in the right color dress and feel comfortable and pretty in what they choose.