Bridesmaid Expectations?

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This is how I feel! I know some of my girls will definitely want the professional hair and makeup and some may just want one or the other. If I was able to pay for them all to have it, I would, however, I am not. I am considering giving them all a gift card for the salon we are going to for hair and makeup that they can use the day of the wedding. I figured that even if I could cover some of the cost, if they want it, it would be better than none.

My girls are paying for their own dress ($89 or $100) and shoes (any nude heels). I’m not requiring any jewelry, but I have gifted them a rose gold knot bangle so I would ask them to wear other rose gold jewelry if possible (not a deal breaker if they can’t).

I’m not hiring a professional for hair and makeup, so we’ll all do our own together and help each other out. If they express wanting to get mani pedis, I’d be open to getting one with them, but I was planning on getting them all the same nail polish bottle (OPI’s mimosas for mr and mrs) if they wanted to paint their own the night before. I usually do my own nails as well.

i haven’t decided if im purchasing them a cute personalized gift yet, but if I do, it’ll be related to something I want us all to get ready in. Instead, I’m paying for us all to stay at the Airbnb together the night before the wedding and the night of the wedding (we’ll all be 2 hours away from our hometown). And I want to get us breakfast and lunch for before the wedding.

The only thing I’d hopefully want is some sort of bachelorette celebration with my girls, whatever it may be. I’d hope it is pretty low key so they don’t have to spend much. I have also voiced that I don’t need or desire a bridal shower.

I gave the gals the impression that they're choosing and paying for their dresses. I know my mom intends on paying for hair/makeup. I am under the impression that my ladies are paying for the bachelorette party stuffs.

I don’t know when things got so crazy and brides are expected to pay for everything. I have been in multiple weddings and never once did a bride pay nor offer to pay for anything. It was an expected cost when I accepted that I would be responsible to pay for my dress, shoe (alterations and dying), hair, makeup if I wanted it done, shower, gift and lodging. Now I’m older 🙄 so most of these weddings there was no such thing as the outrageous bachelorette parties that people go away on now so yes that’s an added expense but I’m kind of bummed that I’m getting married in a time when there’s so much pressure and competition to have so much. All of the weddings I was in, on rehearsal night I was gifted the jewelry we were to wear. Only twice was I given an additional gift both times jewelry boxes. The age of Pinterest has really gotten out of control.

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So I got this impression from my MOH as well! She was fully under the impression that she was paying for everything! Personally, having not been in a wedding as an adult, I was not aware of the expectations that bridesmaids have. I just felt like if I could help ease some of the cost, then I would.

My bridesmaids know that they have to pay for their dresses and other clothing/accessories. I have already told them I am covering makeup since I am requiring it to be professional and they are responsible for hair. We will also be giving them a gift (getting ready outfit & a few other things). I will invite them to the salon with me when I get my nails done but they will cover their own manicures if they choose to get one done professionally. We are also offering free accommodation for them to stay at my parents house with me the night before if they want to.

My girls paid for their dresses, I didn't care what they wore for jewelry and shoes. I paid for hair and makeup day of. They (along with my mom) hosted a bridal shower and bachelorette getaway (I tried to help pay but they wouldnt let me)

My girls are paying for their dress and if they want their makeup or nails done. I am paying for their hair. I treated them each to a pair of badgley mischkas to wear on the wedding day as an early gift. I'll also be buying them jewelry as one of their gifts. We were a bit more low key for the bachelorette but all the bridesmaids paid for that and covered for my entry and food and drinks that night ♡ I told them I dont want a shower so no one has to pay for that.

I expected them to pay for their dresses and shoes (but they got to pick whatever shoes they wanted). Nails were also completely optional. Some of us made a plan to go together and they actually insisted on paying for mine. Everyone was on their own for hair, but I offered to pay for make up for those who wanted it. They all took me up on it. Accessories they were on their own, but I did buy them each a bracelet for the wedding in addition to their gifts. They also split the costs of the bachelorette party (but only hosted what they agreed to afford). My aunt hosted by shower, but my MOH also contributed what she could.

I've been in one wedding previously and I paid for my dress and shoes, she paid for the hair, nails and makeup, and bought me jewelry for the wedding. The MOH completely covered the shower.

In the wedding I have coming up, I was responsible for dress and shoes. I'm planning on paying for hair and makeup, but if the bride offers then awesome. I am splitting the bachelorette cost with the other girls.