Bridesmaid Expectations?

I’m only expecting my girls to pay for their dresses. They are welcome to use whatever shoes and jewelry they already have. And since our venue allows us in 3 hours before the ceremony, I suggested we all pool our supplies together and DIY our own hair and makeup. There’s only 5 of us and we’re all very low key ladies.
My MOH is more than happy to pay for dinner and a couple drinks for my bachelorette party since again it will just be the 5 of us. I said I will treat everyone to a nice hotel or AirBnb downtown for the night.

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That sounds like a great plan! My MOH was more than happy to pay for EVERYTHING and it made me feel terribly guilty! I plan on helping out the girls a little to help offset the cost of the day.

My bridesmaids are expected to get their dress by March ($99-$169). After that, they are expected to arrive in Denver on Friday for the rehearsal dinner & rehearsal, then get ready with me the day of, attend the wedding, then leave! My MOH is throwing a bachelorette but 2 girls can't go (totally fine). I'm paying for their hair & makeup and bringing nail polish if they don't want to get theirs done. I'm providing breakfast & lunch the day of, as well as transportation. They are picking their own shoes & jewelry. They don't have to stay in our blocked hotel or fly in any specific time. I'm contributing to my bachelorette party against my MOHs wishes.

My girls are buying their own dresses and paying for their own hair/makeup. I am taking us out to get our nails done together and buying them gifts. We will also all be splitting whatever cost there is of the bachelorette party. I'll also be providing lunch for them on the big day and a hotel room for the night before!

For my wedding the bridesmaids/MOH paid for their own dresses. I let them do what ever they wanted for shoes and nails, the dresses were long so you couldn't even see their shoes and nails don't really matter. Since we were all getting ready in the bridal suite together I paid for each girl to get either hair or makeup professionally done (they each chose which).

For the bridal shower my mom was the main host then she asked for volunteers from the bridal party to take care of certain tasks, everyone picked something within their own personal budget. For the bachelorette my MOH said we should go somewhere so we choose Ocean City Maryland since it was in the middle of NJ and Virginia (the 2 states we all live in). My MOH and bridesmaids split the cost of the hotel evenly and then people volunteered to bring decorations and stuff like that, again so everyone can stick to their own budget.

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That sounds like a great plan! I'll probably end up contributing to my bachelorette party, even though my girls keep telling me I don't have to!

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My MOH planned the house rental without me and the girls all split it among them (not including me). So I'm planning on paying for dinner for all the girls the night we get there!

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That's a great idea! I'm sure they will love it!

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Since you paid for either hair or makeup, if your girls chose to have both - did they pay for it themselves? I ask because this is one option I was thinking about doing!

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A few decided to have both done so they just paid for the second service themselves! Both hair and makeup cost the same so it was fair!

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Great, thanks! The cost of both of mine are the same too so I thought it was reasonable for them to pay for one!

I’m paying for makeup. Most of the bridesmaids are staying in a house, I paid a good deposit for that. Each one of my bridesmaids have different hair needs so they are paying themselves. Some of them had different financial needs and I found two of their dresses NWT on Poshmark for under $40, so I paid for that . One of the girls really wanted to come the bachelorette party but lives out of state, so we found a round trip ticket and I paid for that. I’m also doing gifts. I think it’s inportant to help when you can and on an individual basis, you know your girls, if you know someone might need some help, don’t hesitate to volunteer, however don’t take on any burdens .

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Absolutely! I have already told them that if something happens and they can't afford their dress (or anything really) to let me know and I will help them out as much as possible! I also didn't want to not give them a personalized gift because I was planning on paying for some wedding services because they will definitely deserve the gift by then! Heck, they're doing such a great job already!

I have 2 bridesmaids a jr bridesmaid and 4 groomsmen- the BM only requirement is to pick a style they liked in blue and wear cowboy boots. In our case we bought all the groomsmen shirts and ties so they would match and the jr bridesmaid dress because she is our daughter. Our family all already owns cowboy boots. I plan on me and my mother and daughter going to do mani may invite bridesmaids may just keep it a family thing havent decided yet

I expect my bridesmaids to pay for their dresses, shoes (but they can wear whatever they want), and trave/hotel. My MOH will probably pay a little more where the Bach party is concerned, but I’m thinking that’ll just be like total cost divided by # of people attending.

Other than that I’m not expecting them to pay for or do anything. I’m also a control freak so I won’t be handing off tasks to people anyways. For hair & makeup, if I can afford it, I’ll treat them to it. If not, it will be optional and they can pay for it if they would like, otherwise they can just do their hair & makeup how they feel comfortable.

My bridesmaids are paying for their own dresses. that was the only thing i told them they have to have. I gave them the choice to get their hair, makeup and nails done because i am not paying for it. I have 8 bridesmaids, so its just way out of my budget to pay for them and i couldn't pay for some and not the others. They were all fine with paying for themselves and cose what they did and didn't want done. I feel like it's fine for them to pay on their own. being a MOH or bridesmaid has a lot of responsibility and if they want to be honored on your special day i dont think it should be a big deal to spare a little cash! I just think they should definitely have the option if you want them to pay for themselves.

I expect them to pay for their own dress. Nails and are make up are optional they can do whatever they want. I'm getting my nails done and I am doing my own hair and makeup. If they wanna go natural they can totally do that. If they wanna get fancy that's totally cool to. I have no requirements other than they have to stay in their dress for the reception lol

I offered to pay for everyone’s gowns, though only one took me up on it (the rest all make three times what I do), and will pay for manicures. I’m having hair and makeup available but not making them requires. Two of them, the ones whose weddings I have been in, are refusing to let me pay for anything, but I’d like to be able to cover at least hair for everyone. That’ll depend on the stylist I book though, but we shall see. It’s always nice to offer to cover things but for some people it’s a point of pride and they would prefer to pay certain things themselves. So I’ll probably offer hair for everyone knowing two will continue to refuse to let me help them with this stuff.

I expect my girls to pay for the dress, hair and makeup if they choose bc I trust they can all look presentable on their own, and most likely shower. I don’t like bachelorette parties so we will most likely be doing a different activity like dinner and a concert or escape room.

I’m stuck too. My fiancé and I just closed on our first house yesterday and kind of need every penny to furnish our home before the wedding, 9/21/19. Following this post!!