shannon.sv
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Bridesmaid Expectations?

shannon.sv, on January 12, 2019 at 10:55 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 49
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Hey all! I was wondering what you all plan on doing/have done for your bridesmaids when it came to expectations of what to pay for. My MOH told me that she fully expected to pay for everything: her dress, bachelorette party (including hotel), hair, make-up, nails, etc. I made it clear that I was more than willing to help out with some things, like the bachelorette party, especially since we plan on flying out somewhere and staying for a few days. Have you/Do you plan to help out for hair, make-up, or nails? I did consider giving them a gift card to cover some of the hair/make-up and paying for everyone to get manicures when we go together. What are your thoughts?!

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Latest activity by Rica, on January 21, 2019 at 10:35 AM
  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    So the only thing I paid for was either hair or makeup for my girls. I gave them the choice of one service and if they wanted both they paid for the other service. Bachelorette party not all my bridesmaids could come but the ones they did paid for me. They all bought their own bridesmaid dress. I let them wear whatever shoes, jewelry, nail color they wanted.
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  • Cara
    Expert July 2019
    Cara ·
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    I asked my bridesmaids to have hair and makeup done so I’m paying for the services (makeup is the basic package and if they want to upgrade to airbrush or false lashes they pay the upgrade). If it’s somrthing you’re requiring then it’s appropriate to help out with the costs but if you’re giving them the option to have hair/makeup done then definitely don’t feel obligated to pay.
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  • L
    Expert June 2019
    Lori ·
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    I am paying for Hair and Makeup, but that's all I can afford. We will have optional mani/pedis before the rehearsal, but I am not paying for that. BM bought their own dresses which were $109 plus tax.
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  • shannon.sv
    Devoted July 2021
    shannon.sv ·
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    I like the idea of giving them a choice if they want one or both services! I'll definitely have to consider that!

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  • shannon.sv
    Devoted July 2021
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    The makeup artist I found also has the upgrades and I planned on getting them for me, but wasn't going to make it required for my girls! Thanks for the advice! Smiley smile

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  • shannon.sv
    Devoted July 2021
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    Thanks for the advice! I guess my mani/pedis are optional too because I don't care what color they get - or if they get them! I just planned on going and telling my girls that they were more than welcome to go with me!

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  • Colleen
    Master September 2019
    Colleen ·
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    The general rule is they pay for the dress but bride should privetly ask budget if they are in same dress. If bride requires hair and make up bride pays.
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  • earias
    Champion December 2017
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    I let them wear whatever long, burgundy dress they wanted and didn't care what shoes or jewelry they wore or if they got their nails done. I gave them the option to choose to have either professional hair or makeup done. I paid for their accommodations for the weekend which also included food for the weekend. They paid for my day at the spa and dinner for my bachelorette party. They also hosted a couple's shower.
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  • L
    Expert June 2019
    Lori ·
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    Yeah, that's what we are doing... I just told them we will go together and they can do whatever they want... If they want to only do Mani that's OK.. or even paint their own... I think everyone is going to get a mani/pedi though... will be about $30 and will be a fun thing to do together!
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  • Emma
    Dedicated November 2019
    Emma ·
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    I am paying for my bridesmaids makeup, they are paying for their own dress and hair. I think just have an open conversation with them and check that they are okay with what you are expecting them to pay or not pay for.
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  • Katie
    VIP November 2019
    Katie ·
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    I’m paying for makeup services, the rehearsal dinner. I’ve also planned the bachelorette weekend
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  • Futuremrsk
    VIP August 2019
    Futuremrsk ·
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    I am letting them choose their own dresses, shoes, jewelry etc to wear the day of. They have the option for hair and makeup with my stylists but are free to use another/do their own if they want. I will be providing breakfast, lunch, and snacks the day of the wedding while we get ready since we will most likely have an early start. I am also going to be getting each one an individualized gift based off their interests. My Matron and Maid of Honor have said they want to do a bachelorette for me, and my Maid of Honor is helping my mom with a shower.
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  • Bre
    Dedicated September 2019
    Bre ·
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    I paid for their dresses will also be paying for accomidations in Hawaii(destination wedding)for 4 days. Can pay if want to stay longer
    They will be responsible for everything else.
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  • Cassandra7
    Super August 2006
    Cassandra7 ·
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    They pay for their dresses (having each been consulted in private about her budget before a decision is made). Anything else you require you pay for.

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  • Summer987
    Super May 2018
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    My husband and I paid for the bridal parties attire. My bridesmaids wore shoes the owned. They wore their hair and makeup how they wanted. We didn't have any bridal showers, bachelorette or bachelors parties. I think you should ask them their budgets if you want them to pay for their attire.
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  • ashley
    Dedicated August 2019
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    My BMs are paying for their own dress, but I am giving them the option of getting whatever dress they want as long as its the right length and color. Ive provided them the color options from DB and offered to get them color swatches if they dont want to order from DB.

    Im not requiring them to have their hair, make up, and nails done so Im not paying for that either. We'll have a friend that is there doing my hair and makeup (licensed stylist) who is going to touch up girls or put on falsies if needed. I made sure this was okay with everyone and offered to pay to have more people there to them, but everyone was like "uh I can put my own make up on" and said no. They would rather have that money go towards Chick Fil A and mimosas that morning haha

    Instead I am gifting them each a bridesmaid box that has spa stuff, hair stuff, and makeup I know they like (either a lipstick from my favorite brand or an eyeshadow pallete from a nicer brand whichever they would wear more), and a necklace. Id rather gift them something they can use multiple times than just getting their make up done for one day for the same price.

    Im not doing a bachelorette party, so theres no extra cost from them there.

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  • Nyikee
    Expert February 2020
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    I'm treating my girls to mani-pedis a few days before the wedding, but they're responsible for their make up and hair. If they want it done professionally, that's completely up to them, but also on their dime. They're responsible for their dresses and accessories, although I do plan on giving them all matching necklaces (except my MOH, she doesn't wear them) and bracelets. I'm also requiring them to wear circlets, so I'm paying for those as well. As far as hair/makeup, if you're requiring them to have it done professionally, it's proper etiquette to pay for that.

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  • shannon.sv
    Devoted July 2021
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    Yes! I will definitely need to go and figured that the girls would want to tag along!

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  • shannon.sv
    Devoted July 2021
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    I definitely think I need to talk with my other 2 bridesmaids about their expectations! I was just so throw off by the conversation with my MOH that I didn't know what was "right" or "wrong."

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  • shannon.sv
    Devoted July 2021
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    I planned on doing personalized gifts on top of offsetting some of the costs for the day of - just to be nice, especially with all of the support they've given me throughout this process.

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