Bridesmaid dropped out

Erin - it definitely doesn't sound like you're planning to give her jobs. I'm just saying you should make sure it doesn't accidentally turn into that. I'm sure she could Google "honorary BM" and find plenty of misguided websites saying that an honorary BM is supposed to do x, y, and z when all you're wanting to do is honor your friendship with her and make sure she's spending the day getting pampered with you.

I think you're complicating a situation that doesn't need to be complicated. She doesn't want to be a bridesmaid so just say "ok I understand and I hope will still attend as a guest" Why do you have to create an unnecessary role for her just so she can play dress up with you.

Oh I don't think that will be an issue. My BM's aren't the type to look anything up on the internet and I've made it clear I'm not expecting anything from them. I have no idea what a bridesmaid is "supposed" to do except stand there and look pretty. It seems like my friends are doing most of the traditional BM duties like staying with me the night before and helping me plan. Guess I'm just non-traditional.

@MN- of course she will attend. There was never a question of that. She's family. I don't think I'm over complicating it at all. She'll stay a bridesmaid but not walk. It couldn't be any easier. She's happy and I'm happy. I think it's perfect.

Aw, I'm sorry to hear that! Its sad that her insecurities are keeping her from being a full part of your big day You reacted well!

Thanks! I was feeling so bad but now I think we've worked out a good plan that she is comfortable with.

Anxiety is a REAL thing, y'all. You're a good friend for being so understanding. You know, most people won't really notice if she doesn't walk down the aisle. She can maybe sit in the front row and be in all of your pictures and still be a bridesmaid. And wedding party sides do not have to be even.

@Squirrel- that's what I'm thinking. If she changes her mind at the last minute I'll just give her my tossing bouquet to use and she can walk. If not then I'll put her up front. She would be up there anyways. She's my cousin:-)

Erin - you may want to get her a bouquet for pictures anyway?

CMC- good point! I'll email my florist now. Thanks!