Bridesmaid Dresses

I have 5 bridesmaids, 2 of which are plus size girls. everyone paid for their own dress. everyone knows that when you agree to be a bridesmaid there is a cost involved.

Based on your numbers, your bridesmaids' dresses are roughly $115/piece. Of course the term "affordable" is relative, but generally speaking, $115 for a bridesmaid dress is considered very affordable/reasonably priced. Of course you should be understanding of each bridesmaid's financial situation, but again this is not unreasonable for a bridesmaid dress. Part of accepting the offer to be a bridesmaid is agreeing to pay for things such as the dress. I think you're totally fine.

I paid for my MOH’s dress but that’s it because she lives across the country and a plane ticket is over $300. I didn’t want to add any more financial stress for her. One of my bridesmaids didn’t have a lot of money so her mom told her to get a convertible dress off of amazon. I’m kind of upset about it because I wanted them to be in the same dye lot so they wouldn’t come out looking weird, but whatever. I didn’t have to pay for it

I might, but it’s a $30 dress and I only have my MOH.

If she can't afford it, she can't afford it. But, she needs to understand that buying a dress is part of her responsibility when she agreed to be a bridesmaid. I think the conversation you need to have with her is: I would love for you to stand up in my wedding and be a bridesmaid, but I can't afford to buy you a dress. It also wouldn't be fair for me to buy yours when all of the other girls are buying theirs. If you can't afford it, I completely understand.

It sucks, but this is a common problem.

My bridesmaids will be paying for their own dresses!

Totally not your responsibility. As far as her size, that is a personal issue and again not yours to deal with. Perhaps if there are a field of colors you’d be ok for them all to pick from (like hues or family colors) then that would be an option. I would expect some help of sorts if someone asked me to be a bridesmaid and the dress was like $1500 lol. Aside that issue I just don’t see it being their problem. I could always say no to being in the wedding. Jmtc

I will not be paying for my girl's dresses however, my wedding party all have steady jobs and income. I will pay for my daughters' dress (duh lol) and I'm paying for other things for my maid's but will not buy their dresses. I don't think your friends expect you to pay for their dresses, I have been in several weddings and never batted an eye at paying for a dress.

I had to pay for my own bridesmaid dress.

I'm paying for my bridesmaids' dresses. I have a credit at a store, so I can do it. Plus I don't have to feel guilty if they don't like it. (lol I'm still asking their opinions). Most likely the dress will be floor length and ivory, so I doubt they can be worn again. That's another reason.

But I've always had to pay for the (usually hideous) bridesmaid dresses for my friends' weddings

They are paying for the dresses and shoes. If you are bridesmaid they'll be costs involved. I'm paying for their hair, makeup, nails and spray tans.

At least in my experience the dresses and shoes are always bought by the bridesmaids. Stuff like hair, makeup, tans, manicures etc are paid by the bride, if all the maids are getting those done at her request. If the bride requests that a bridesmaid wears certain types of jewelry, then the bride pays for that as well.

If your bridesmaid can't afford the dress, then she can't afford being a bridesmaid unless you are willing to pay for her dress, and not the other maids' dresses